Author: Ramona M. Asher
Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press
ISBN: 0807860158
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 293
Book Description
In this important study of women with alcoholic husbands, Asher vividly describes the process of coming to terms with a profound crisis in one's private life. From interviews with more than fifty women, all of whom were participants in family treatment programs, she assembles a composite picture of the experiences shared by wives of alcoholics. The testimony given by these women illustrates the steps they must take to regain control of their lives. The first step is figuring out what is happening and deciding what to do about it. Asher argues that the vogue of using the label "codependent" may actually hinder rather than facilitate emotional health. Led to think of themselves as addicted to their husbands' addictions the wives of alcoholics may be persuaded that their own problems can't be overcome. But, Asher shows, these women can take command of their lives. Originally published in 1992. A UNC Press Enduring Edition -- UNC Press Enduring Editions use the latest in digital technology to make available again books from our distinguished backlist that were previously out of print. These editions are published unaltered from the original, and are presented in affordable paperback formats, bringing readers both historical and cultural value.
Women with Alcoholic Husbands
Author: Ramona M. Asher
Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press
ISBN: 0807860158
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 293
Book Description
In this important study of women with alcoholic husbands, Asher vividly describes the process of coming to terms with a profound crisis in one's private life. From interviews with more than fifty women, all of whom were participants in family treatment programs, she assembles a composite picture of the experiences shared by wives of alcoholics. The testimony given by these women illustrates the steps they must take to regain control of their lives. The first step is figuring out what is happening and deciding what to do about it. Asher argues that the vogue of using the label "codependent" may actually hinder rather than facilitate emotional health. Led to think of themselves as addicted to their husbands' addictions the wives of alcoholics may be persuaded that their own problems can't be overcome. But, Asher shows, these women can take command of their lives. Originally published in 1992. A UNC Press Enduring Edition -- UNC Press Enduring Editions use the latest in digital technology to make available again books from our distinguished backlist that were previously out of print. These editions are published unaltered from the original, and are presented in affordable paperback formats, bringing readers both historical and cultural value.
Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press
ISBN: 0807860158
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 293
Book Description
In this important study of women with alcoholic husbands, Asher vividly describes the process of coming to terms with a profound crisis in one's private life. From interviews with more than fifty women, all of whom were participants in family treatment programs, she assembles a composite picture of the experiences shared by wives of alcoholics. The testimony given by these women illustrates the steps they must take to regain control of their lives. The first step is figuring out what is happening and deciding what to do about it. Asher argues that the vogue of using the label "codependent" may actually hinder rather than facilitate emotional health. Led to think of themselves as addicted to their husbands' addictions the wives of alcoholics may be persuaded that their own problems can't be overcome. But, Asher shows, these women can take command of their lives. Originally published in 1992. A UNC Press Enduring Edition -- UNC Press Enduring Editions use the latest in digital technology to make available again books from our distinguished backlist that were previously out of print. These editions are published unaltered from the original, and are presented in affordable paperback formats, bringing readers both historical and cultural value.
The Alcoholic Husband Primer
Author: Wren Waters
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781533363473
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 92
Book Description
Alcoholism has been called a "family disease" and yet the family, in particular the wife, of the alcoholic seems to go unseen by the addiction and recovery communities. And what support, advice and programs there are for the women married to alcoholics tend to be alcoholic-centric. "The Alcoholic Husband Primer" is advice for the wives of alcoholics based on their needs - not the needs of the alcoholic. It doesn't label women as "co-dependent." It doesn't accuse them of being "enablers." It's real, practical, everyday advice for the wives of alcoholics...written by the wife of an alcoholic.
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781533363473
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 92
Book Description
Alcoholism has been called a "family disease" and yet the family, in particular the wife, of the alcoholic seems to go unseen by the addiction and recovery communities. And what support, advice and programs there are for the women married to alcoholics tend to be alcoholic-centric. "The Alcoholic Husband Primer" is advice for the wives of alcoholics based on their needs - not the needs of the alcoholic. It doesn't label women as "co-dependent." It doesn't accuse them of being "enablers." It's real, practical, everyday advice for the wives of alcoholics...written by the wife of an alcoholic.
Women Married to Alcoholics
Author: Morris Kokin
Publisher: New York : Morrow
ISBN:
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 224
Book Description
A sympathetic look at the women (and children) behind the alcoholic is presented from 15 years of research.
Publisher: New York : Morrow
ISBN:
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 224
Book Description
A sympathetic look at the women (and children) behind the alcoholic is presented from 15 years of research.
Living with a Functioning Alcoholic-A Woman's Survival Guide
Author: Neill Neill
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780981084305
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 200
Book Description
"Living with a Functioning Alcoholic" is a book about hope, written specifically for women living in the chaos of alcoholic families yet unable to seek help from a psychologist.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780981084305
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 200
Book Description
"Living with a Functioning Alcoholic" is a book about hope, written specifically for women living in the chaos of alcoholic families yet unable to seek help from a psychologist.
Living with an Alcoholic Husband
Author: Cherry Parker
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781483956114
Category : Alcoholics
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
"To me the sound of a metal bottle capunscrewing against a glass bottle isthe worst sound in the world.To my husband it is heaven."This true account is my story. My personal observations and feelings as I lived with a husband addicted to alcohol, on a roller coaster ride of hope and despair, love and loathing, embarrassment and anger, dreading each day. I was isolated, confused and upset that I was not doing enough to help him.You become worn down by the windscreen wiper mentality. The good guy, bad guy, drinking, not drinking, telling the truth, lying, worrying, hope, please not this time, maybe he will stop - or maybe I am going mad - perhaps it is me.This is the life I have written about. How I slowly came to realize that I was always waiting, wanting him to change. Trying to change him. Wrong. It had to be me who changed.I describe how I reached these conclusions, the choices I made and acted upon, to improve my life.Without implementing change, everything will stay the same as it is now.In writing this book I hope that some one else who lives with an alcoholically dependant person can be helped.We are not going mad.We did not cause the problem.We alone cannot change the alcoholic.We must change ourselves in order to get our life back.
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781483956114
Category : Alcoholics
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
"To me the sound of a metal bottle capunscrewing against a glass bottle isthe worst sound in the world.To my husband it is heaven."This true account is my story. My personal observations and feelings as I lived with a husband addicted to alcohol, on a roller coaster ride of hope and despair, love and loathing, embarrassment and anger, dreading each day. I was isolated, confused and upset that I was not doing enough to help him.You become worn down by the windscreen wiper mentality. The good guy, bad guy, drinking, not drinking, telling the truth, lying, worrying, hope, please not this time, maybe he will stop - or maybe I am going mad - perhaps it is me.This is the life I have written about. How I slowly came to realize that I was always waiting, wanting him to change. Trying to change him. Wrong. It had to be me who changed.I describe how I reached these conclusions, the choices I made and acted upon, to improve my life.Without implementing change, everything will stay the same as it is now.In writing this book I hope that some one else who lives with an alcoholically dependant person can be helped.We are not going mad.We did not cause the problem.We alone cannot change the alcoholic.We must change ourselves in order to get our life back.
Love on the Rocks
Author: Lori Rotskoff
Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press
ISBN: 0807861421
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 332
Book Description
In this fascinating history of alcohol in postwar American culture, Lori Rotskoff draws on short stories, advertisements, medical writings, and Hollywood films to investigate how gender norms and ideologies of marriage intersected with scientific and popular ideas about drinking and alcoholism. After the repeal of Prohibition in 1933, recreational drinking became increasingly accepted among white, suburban, middle-class men and women. But excessive or habitual drinking plagued many families. How did people view the "problem drinkers" in their midst? How did husbands and wives learn to cope within an "alcoholic marriage"? And how was drinking linked to broader social concerns during the Great Depression, World War II, and the Cold War era? By the 1950s, Rotskoff explains, mental health experts, movie producers, and members of self-help groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon helped bring about a shift in the public perception of alcoholism from "sin" to "sickness." Yet alcoholism was also viewed as a family problem that expressed gender-role failure for both women and men. On the silver screen (in movies such as The Lost Weekend and The Best Years of Our Lives) and on the printed page (in stories by such writers as John Cheever), in hospitals and at Twelve Step meetings, chronic drunkenness became one of the most pressing public health issues of the day. Shedding new light on the history of gender, marriage, and family life from the 1920s through the 1960s, this innovative book also opens new perspectives on the history of leisure and class affiliation, attitudes toward consumerism and addiction, and the development of a therapeutic culture.
Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press
ISBN: 0807861421
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 332
Book Description
In this fascinating history of alcohol in postwar American culture, Lori Rotskoff draws on short stories, advertisements, medical writings, and Hollywood films to investigate how gender norms and ideologies of marriage intersected with scientific and popular ideas about drinking and alcoholism. After the repeal of Prohibition in 1933, recreational drinking became increasingly accepted among white, suburban, middle-class men and women. But excessive or habitual drinking plagued many families. How did people view the "problem drinkers" in their midst? How did husbands and wives learn to cope within an "alcoholic marriage"? And how was drinking linked to broader social concerns during the Great Depression, World War II, and the Cold War era? By the 1950s, Rotskoff explains, mental health experts, movie producers, and members of self-help groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon helped bring about a shift in the public perception of alcoholism from "sin" to "sickness." Yet alcoholism was also viewed as a family problem that expressed gender-role failure for both women and men. On the silver screen (in movies such as The Lost Weekend and The Best Years of Our Lives) and on the printed page (in stories by such writers as John Cheever), in hospitals and at Twelve Step meetings, chronic drunkenness became one of the most pressing public health issues of the day. Shedding new light on the history of gender, marriage, and family life from the 1920s through the 1960s, this innovative book also opens new perspectives on the history of leisure and class affiliation, attitudes toward consumerism and addiction, and the development of a therapeutic culture.
Leaving 101
Author: Wren Waters
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781983652165
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 208
Book Description
Wren Waters knows that most women who are married to alcoholics live in the constant mental state of "should I stay? I need to leave." As the days turn into months, the months into years, no decision becomes a tragic decision. When a woman finally looks up from the years lost to trying to mitigate life with a compulsive drinking, she often feels it's "too late." Too late to be happy. Too late to embrace her life. Too late to live her dreams. "Leaving 101" is not about leaving today, tomorrow or necessarily at all. It's about arresting the erosion of your soul that is the eventual by product of living with someone else's alcoholism. It's about learning to live more consciously - rather than reactively - so that you regain control and power in your own life. It's about working to create a life that one day makes it your choice as to whether you stay or go.
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781983652165
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 208
Book Description
Wren Waters knows that most women who are married to alcoholics live in the constant mental state of "should I stay? I need to leave." As the days turn into months, the months into years, no decision becomes a tragic decision. When a woman finally looks up from the years lost to trying to mitigate life with a compulsive drinking, she often feels it's "too late." Too late to be happy. Too late to embrace her life. Too late to live her dreams. "Leaving 101" is not about leaving today, tomorrow or necessarily at all. It's about arresting the erosion of your soul that is the eventual by product of living with someone else's alcoholism. It's about learning to live more consciously - rather than reactively - so that you regain control and power in your own life. It's about working to create a life that one day makes it your choice as to whether you stay or go.
The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage
Author: Al-Anon Family Group
Publisher: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
ISBN: 9780910034180
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 101
Book Description
Publisher: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
ISBN: 9780910034180
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 101
Book Description
Lord, Please Make Him Stop Drinking
Author: Christine Lennard Folk
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 1642797782
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 101
Book Description
Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking provides clear biblical examples of how wives can experience peace in their home from the up and down roller coaster of an alcoholic husband. Christine Folk, communications coach and founder of Epiphany Approach, has put her wisdom on the page in Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking. Within its pages, Christine provides new skills for women to use when that angry alcoholic side of their husband shows up again. Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking lays out a practical approach to applying God’s word to tumultuous situations and shows women how to: Resist being provoked into his argument ... again Speak to him in "his" language and get him to stop yelling Reduce the intensity and frequency of his rants Know what his real problem is Know exactly what God is trying to tell them
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 1642797782
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 101
Book Description
Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking provides clear biblical examples of how wives can experience peace in their home from the up and down roller coaster of an alcoholic husband. Christine Folk, communications coach and founder of Epiphany Approach, has put her wisdom on the page in Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking. Within its pages, Christine provides new skills for women to use when that angry alcoholic side of their husband shows up again. Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking lays out a practical approach to applying God’s word to tumultuous situations and shows women how to: Resist being provoked into his argument ... again Speak to him in "his" language and get him to stop yelling Reduce the intensity and frequency of his rants Know what his real problem is Know exactly what God is trying to tell them
Quit Like a Woman
Author: Holly Whitaker
Publisher: Dial Press
ISBN: 1984825062
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 384
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “An unflinching examination of how our drinking culture hurts women and a gorgeous memoir of how one woman healed herself.”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Untamed “You don’t know how much you need this book, or maybe you do. Either way, it will save your life.”—Melissa Hartwig Urban, Whole30 co-founder and CEO The founder of the first female-focused recovery program offers a groundbreaking look at alcohol and a radical new path to sobriety. We live in a world obsessed with drinking. We drink at baby showers and work events, brunch and book club, graduations and funerals. Yet no one ever questions alcohol’s ubiquity—in fact, the only thing ever questioned is why someone doesn’t drink. It is a qualifier for belonging and if you don’t imbibe, you are considered an anomaly. As a society, we are obsessed with health and wellness, yet we uphold alcohol as some kind of magic elixir, though it is anything but. When Holly Whitaker decided to seek help after one too many benders, she embarked on a journey that led not only to her own sobriety, but revealed the insidious role alcohol plays in our society and in the lives of women in particular. What’s more, she could not ignore the ways that alcohol companies were targeting women, just as the tobacco industry had successfully done generations before. Fueled by her own emerging feminism, she also realized that the predominant systems of recovery are archaic, patriarchal, and ineffective for the unique needs of women and other historically oppressed people—who don’t need to lose their egos and surrender to a male concept of God, as the tenets of Alcoholics Anonymous state, but who need to cultivate a deeper understanding of their own identities and take control of their lives. When Holly found an alternate way out of her own addiction, she felt a calling to create a sober community with resources for anyone questioning their relationship with drinking, so that they might find their way as well. Her resultant feminine-centric recovery program focuses on getting at the root causes that lead people to overindulge and provides the tools necessary to break the cycle of addiction, showing us what is possible when we remove alcohol and destroy our belief system around it. Written in a relatable voice that is honest and witty, Quit Like a Woman is at once a groundbreaking look at drinking culture and a road map to cutting out alcohol in order to live our best lives without the crutch of intoxication. You will never look at drinking the same way again.
Publisher: Dial Press
ISBN: 1984825062
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 384
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “An unflinching examination of how our drinking culture hurts women and a gorgeous memoir of how one woman healed herself.”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Untamed “You don’t know how much you need this book, or maybe you do. Either way, it will save your life.”—Melissa Hartwig Urban, Whole30 co-founder and CEO The founder of the first female-focused recovery program offers a groundbreaking look at alcohol and a radical new path to sobriety. We live in a world obsessed with drinking. We drink at baby showers and work events, brunch and book club, graduations and funerals. Yet no one ever questions alcohol’s ubiquity—in fact, the only thing ever questioned is why someone doesn’t drink. It is a qualifier for belonging and if you don’t imbibe, you are considered an anomaly. As a society, we are obsessed with health and wellness, yet we uphold alcohol as some kind of magic elixir, though it is anything but. When Holly Whitaker decided to seek help after one too many benders, she embarked on a journey that led not only to her own sobriety, but revealed the insidious role alcohol plays in our society and in the lives of women in particular. What’s more, she could not ignore the ways that alcohol companies were targeting women, just as the tobacco industry had successfully done generations before. Fueled by her own emerging feminism, she also realized that the predominant systems of recovery are archaic, patriarchal, and ineffective for the unique needs of women and other historically oppressed people—who don’t need to lose their egos and surrender to a male concept of God, as the tenets of Alcoholics Anonymous state, but who need to cultivate a deeper understanding of their own identities and take control of their lives. When Holly found an alternate way out of her own addiction, she felt a calling to create a sober community with resources for anyone questioning their relationship with drinking, so that they might find their way as well. Her resultant feminine-centric recovery program focuses on getting at the root causes that lead people to overindulge and provides the tools necessary to break the cycle of addiction, showing us what is possible when we remove alcohol and destroy our belief system around it. Written in a relatable voice that is honest and witty, Quit Like a Woman is at once a groundbreaking look at drinking culture and a road map to cutting out alcohol in order to live our best lives without the crutch of intoxication. You will never look at drinking the same way again.