Author: Betty C. Blevins
Publisher: America Star Books
ISBN: 9781462699865
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 34
Book Description
People get divorced for good reasons. While there were huge increases in divorce after divorce is legalized or becomes more easily available, that change in the law itself is not even necessarily the trigger. Although it's debated, what is sometimes blamed the trigger for the U.S. increase in divorce is the availability of a "no-fault" divorces. That's when some argue the rates skyrocketed. But in that critique, there's an embedded presumption that the divorces are really "no fault." And that the couples who get them are taking are the easy way out, when, in fact, that really may not be the case. I'll admit that's an understandable reaction, if you just look at the timeline on divorce. You might disapprove of the number of divorces in general, but then think about your friend who got divorced. Think about your own divorce. Because in critiques of the rising numbers of divorces, we forget that divorces aren't numbers. They are relationships. People get divorced for really good reasons. For example, from 20 to 30 percent of divorced marriages involved domestic violence. Separated and divorced women are 14 times more likely to report that they've been victims of violence. In Canada found that 50 percent of divorced women there had been abuse victims. It used to be that wife-beating wasn't a reason to leave your husband/wife. In some cultures, it still isn't. (And in case we think those cultures are so distant, it wasn't until 1992 that the U.S. Catholic Bishops issued a statement that women didn't have to stay married in an abusive relationship - because Catholic wives thought (or were being told) that they had to stay and save their marriage.) Once you start adding in infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse, the idea that divorces are really "no fault" becomes a farce. Yes, of course, there are the opportunist divorces as well, but how would we protect those with real reasons to divorce without getting them, too? What's the alternative?
The Leading Cause of Divorce Is Marriage
Author: Betty C. Blevins
Publisher: America Star Books
ISBN: 9781462699865
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 34
Book Description
People get divorced for good reasons. While there were huge increases in divorce after divorce is legalized or becomes more easily available, that change in the law itself is not even necessarily the trigger. Although it's debated, what is sometimes blamed the trigger for the U.S. increase in divorce is the availability of a "no-fault" divorces. That's when some argue the rates skyrocketed. But in that critique, there's an embedded presumption that the divorces are really "no fault." And that the couples who get them are taking are the easy way out, when, in fact, that really may not be the case. I'll admit that's an understandable reaction, if you just look at the timeline on divorce. You might disapprove of the number of divorces in general, but then think about your friend who got divorced. Think about your own divorce. Because in critiques of the rising numbers of divorces, we forget that divorces aren't numbers. They are relationships. People get divorced for really good reasons. For example, from 20 to 30 percent of divorced marriages involved domestic violence. Separated and divorced women are 14 times more likely to report that they've been victims of violence. In Canada found that 50 percent of divorced women there had been abuse victims. It used to be that wife-beating wasn't a reason to leave your husband/wife. In some cultures, it still isn't. (And in case we think those cultures are so distant, it wasn't until 1992 that the U.S. Catholic Bishops issued a statement that women didn't have to stay married in an abusive relationship - because Catholic wives thought (or were being told) that they had to stay and save their marriage.) Once you start adding in infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse, the idea that divorces are really "no fault" becomes a farce. Yes, of course, there are the opportunist divorces as well, but how would we protect those with real reasons to divorce without getting them, too? What's the alternative?
Publisher: America Star Books
ISBN: 9781462699865
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 34
Book Description
People get divorced for good reasons. While there were huge increases in divorce after divorce is legalized or becomes more easily available, that change in the law itself is not even necessarily the trigger. Although it's debated, what is sometimes blamed the trigger for the U.S. increase in divorce is the availability of a "no-fault" divorces. That's when some argue the rates skyrocketed. But in that critique, there's an embedded presumption that the divorces are really "no fault." And that the couples who get them are taking are the easy way out, when, in fact, that really may not be the case. I'll admit that's an understandable reaction, if you just look at the timeline on divorce. You might disapprove of the number of divorces in general, but then think about your friend who got divorced. Think about your own divorce. Because in critiques of the rising numbers of divorces, we forget that divorces aren't numbers. They are relationships. People get divorced for really good reasons. For example, from 20 to 30 percent of divorced marriages involved domestic violence. Separated and divorced women are 14 times more likely to report that they've been victims of violence. In Canada found that 50 percent of divorced women there had been abuse victims. It used to be that wife-beating wasn't a reason to leave your husband/wife. In some cultures, it still isn't. (And in case we think those cultures are so distant, it wasn't until 1992 that the U.S. Catholic Bishops issued a statement that women didn't have to stay married in an abusive relationship - because Catholic wives thought (or were being told) that they had to stay and save their marriage.) Once you start adding in infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse, the idea that divorces are really "no fault" becomes a farce. Yes, of course, there are the opportunist divorces as well, but how would we protect those with real reasons to divorce without getting them, too? What's the alternative?
The Good News About Marriage
Author: Shaunti Feldhahn
Publisher: Multnomah
ISBN: 1601425635
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 210
Book Description
Divorce is not the biggest threat to marriage. Discouragement is. You’ve probably heard the grim facts: Half of all marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate inside the church is the same as outside. Most marriages are just holding on. But what if these “facts” are actually myths? In The Good News About Marriage, best-selling author Shaunti Feldhahn presents groundbreaking research that reveals the shocking, incredibly inspiring truth: · The actual divorce rate has never gotten close to 50 percent. · Those who attend church regularly have a significantly lower divorce rate than those who don’t. · Most marriages are happy. · Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems. · Most remarriages succeed. For too long, our confidence in marriage has been undermined by persistent misunderstandings and imperfect data. This landmark book will radically change how we think and talk about marriage—and what we can dare to hope from it. “Shaunti takes aim at marriage myths that have spread like a cancer through our culture–myths that have become self-fulfilling prophecies. This book is packed with game-changing revelations. Like this one: Not only are most people staying married, they are happy in their marriages!” –Emerson Eggerichs, best-selling author of Love and Respect
Publisher: Multnomah
ISBN: 1601425635
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 210
Book Description
Divorce is not the biggest threat to marriage. Discouragement is. You’ve probably heard the grim facts: Half of all marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate inside the church is the same as outside. Most marriages are just holding on. But what if these “facts” are actually myths? In The Good News About Marriage, best-selling author Shaunti Feldhahn presents groundbreaking research that reveals the shocking, incredibly inspiring truth: · The actual divorce rate has never gotten close to 50 percent. · Those who attend church regularly have a significantly lower divorce rate than those who don’t. · Most marriages are happy. · Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems. · Most remarriages succeed. For too long, our confidence in marriage has been undermined by persistent misunderstandings and imperfect data. This landmark book will radically change how we think and talk about marriage—and what we can dare to hope from it. “Shaunti takes aim at marriage myths that have spread like a cancer through our culture–myths that have become self-fulfilling prophecies. This book is packed with game-changing revelations. Like this one: Not only are most people staying married, they are happy in their marriages!” –Emerson Eggerichs, best-selling author of Love and Respect
Divorce Busting
Author: Michele Weiner Davis
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0671797255
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 256
Book Description
A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0671797255
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 256
Book Description
A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.
Marriage & Divorce
Author: Spencer W. Kimball
Publisher: Salt Lake City : Desert Book Company
ISBN: 9780877476351
Category : Divorce
Languages : en
Pages : 31
Book Description
President Spencer W. Kimball speaks to the BYU studentbody in the Marriott Center, discussing marriage (and divorce) from the eternal viewpoint.
Publisher: Salt Lake City : Desert Book Company
ISBN: 9780877476351
Category : Divorce
Languages : en
Pages : 31
Book Description
President Spencer W. Kimball speaks to the BYU studentbody in the Marriott Center, discussing marriage (and divorce) from the eternal viewpoint.
The State of Affairs
Author: Esther Perel
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062322605
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062322605
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
The 8 Reasons for Divorce
Author: Thomas G. Papps
Publisher: Kallisti Publishing
ISBN: 0984816216
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 209
Book Description
The 8 Reasons for Divorce: Why Marriages Fail and How to Ensure That Yours Doesn't. Includes the The Pre-Marriage Test and The Marriage Test.
Publisher: Kallisti Publishing
ISBN: 0984816216
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 209
Book Description
The 8 Reasons for Divorce: Why Marriages Fail and How to Ensure That Yours Doesn't. Includes the The Pre-Marriage Test and The Marriage Test.
Understanding the Divorce Cycle
Author: Nicholas H. Wolfinger
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
ISBN: 9780521851169
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 200
Book Description
Wolfinger argues that no-fault divorce laws should be left in place.
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
ISBN: 9780521851169
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 200
Book Description
Wolfinger argues that no-fault divorce laws should be left in place.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0553447718
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0553447718
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
Divorce in Europe
Author: Dimitri Mortelmans
Publisher: Springer Nature
ISBN: 3030258386
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This open access book collects the major discussions in divorce research in Europe. It starts with an understanding of divorce trends. Why was divorce increasing so rapidly throughout the US and Europe and do we see signs of a turn? Do cohabitation breakups influence divorce trends or is there a renewed stability on the partner market? In terms of divorce risks, the book contains new insights on Eastern European countries. These post socialist countries have evolved dramatically since the fall of the Wall and at present they show the highest divorce figures in Europe. Also the influence of gender, and more specifically women’s education as a risk in divorce is examined cross nationally. The book also provides explanations for the negative gradient in female education effects on divorce. It devotes three separate parts to new insights in the post-divorce effects of the life course event by among others looking at consequences for adults and children but also taking the larger family network into account. As such the book is of interest to demographers, sociologists, psychologists, family therapists, NGOs, and politicians. “This wide-ranging volume details important trends in divorce in Europe that hold implications for understanding family dissolution causes and consequences throughout the world. Highly recommended for researchers and students everywhere.”
Publisher: Springer Nature
ISBN: 3030258386
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This open access book collects the major discussions in divorce research in Europe. It starts with an understanding of divorce trends. Why was divorce increasing so rapidly throughout the US and Europe and do we see signs of a turn? Do cohabitation breakups influence divorce trends or is there a renewed stability on the partner market? In terms of divorce risks, the book contains new insights on Eastern European countries. These post socialist countries have evolved dramatically since the fall of the Wall and at present they show the highest divorce figures in Europe. Also the influence of gender, and more specifically women’s education as a risk in divorce is examined cross nationally. The book also provides explanations for the negative gradient in female education effects on divorce. It devotes three separate parts to new insights in the post-divorce effects of the life course event by among others looking at consequences for adults and children but also taking the larger family network into account. As such the book is of interest to demographers, sociologists, psychologists, family therapists, NGOs, and politicians. “This wide-ranging volume details important trends in divorce in Europe that hold implications for understanding family dissolution causes and consequences throughout the world. Highly recommended for researchers and students everywhere.”
The Power of the Past
Author: Jessi Streib
Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA
ISBN: 0199364435
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 305
Book Description
Drawing upon interviews with adults married to a partner of a different class background, The Power of the Past reveals the intimate connections between love and class and how enduring class attributes shape who they love and how their marriage unfolds.
Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA
ISBN: 0199364435
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 305
Book Description
Drawing upon interviews with adults married to a partner of a different class background, The Power of the Past reveals the intimate connections between love and class and how enduring class attributes shape who they love and how their marriage unfolds.