Author: Rozsika Parker
Publisher:
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 326
Book Description
"Many a loving mother has had fleeting feelings of hatred toward her children - the desire to hurl a howling baby out the window or to lock a teenager out of the house. In this provocative book, Rozsika Parker argues that these ambivalent feelings not only are common but can actually have a creative impact on mothering." "Mother Love/Mother Hate boldly illustrates how a mother's desire for devotion coexists with the impulse to hurt and desert. Parents will find Parker's insight into the conflicts that beset them illuminating and deeply reassuring. Reversing the conventional psychoanalytic approach, in which maternal ambivalence has been understood chiefly from the point of view of the child, this book gives precedence to the mother's perspective. Drawing on interviews with mothers, clinical material from her practice as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, and a wide range of psychoanalytic and literary sources (including Virginia Woolf, Anne Tyler, Simone de Beauvoir, D. W. Winnicott, Melanie Klein, and John Bowlby), Parker explores experiences of maternal ambivalence in a culture painfully and profoundly uneasy about its very existence."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved
Mother Love/mother Hate
Author: Rozsika Parker
Publisher:
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 326
Book Description
"Many a loving mother has had fleeting feelings of hatred toward her children - the desire to hurl a howling baby out the window or to lock a teenager out of the house. In this provocative book, Rozsika Parker argues that these ambivalent feelings not only are common but can actually have a creative impact on mothering." "Mother Love/Mother Hate boldly illustrates how a mother's desire for devotion coexists with the impulse to hurt and desert. Parents will find Parker's insight into the conflicts that beset them illuminating and deeply reassuring. Reversing the conventional psychoanalytic approach, in which maternal ambivalence has been understood chiefly from the point of view of the child, this book gives precedence to the mother's perspective. Drawing on interviews with mothers, clinical material from her practice as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, and a wide range of psychoanalytic and literary sources (including Virginia Woolf, Anne Tyler, Simone de Beauvoir, D. W. Winnicott, Melanie Klein, and John Bowlby), Parker explores experiences of maternal ambivalence in a culture painfully and profoundly uneasy about its very existence."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved
Publisher:
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 326
Book Description
"Many a loving mother has had fleeting feelings of hatred toward her children - the desire to hurl a howling baby out the window or to lock a teenager out of the house. In this provocative book, Rozsika Parker argues that these ambivalent feelings not only are common but can actually have a creative impact on mothering." "Mother Love/Mother Hate boldly illustrates how a mother's desire for devotion coexists with the impulse to hurt and desert. Parents will find Parker's insight into the conflicts that beset them illuminating and deeply reassuring. Reversing the conventional psychoanalytic approach, in which maternal ambivalence has been understood chiefly from the point of view of the child, this book gives precedence to the mother's perspective. Drawing on interviews with mothers, clinical material from her practice as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, and a wide range of psychoanalytic and literary sources (including Virginia Woolf, Anne Tyler, Simone de Beauvoir, D. W. Winnicott, Melanie Klein, and John Bowlby), Parker explores experiences of maternal ambivalence in a culture painfully and profoundly uneasy about its very existence."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved
The Mother I Hated to Love
Author: Joel J. Chery
Publisher: AuthorHouse
ISBN: 1434302180
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 425
Book Description
Since her early childhood, Angie McHall noticed that there was something different about her life; although she was surrounded by a father and a mother figure, there was really no one in the house to call mom and dad. Angie was fortunate enough to have in her life her nanny, Liz Santiago. This was the woman who ended up giving her unconditional love and affection, and who would become the only mother she ever had. As Angie grew older, she realized that she was the only person in that household of a different skin color. She would later discover that the couple with whom she had learned to share her space was, in fact, her natural parents, who had chosen to treat her as a perfect stranger, because they did not have much in common with her. Angie was lost; she was engulfed in a mystery that she simply could not comprehend. She was mesmerized by what she considered to be the strange circumstances of her existence. How did Angie happen to be black when the people responsible for her birth were white? She was determined to find the answer to that question, if there were one to be found. Upon her insistence, her nanny decided that she could no longer remain indifferent to her cries; so she promised Angie that she would do all she could to help find the truth that was kept hidden from her all of her life. Liz meant what she said. She was about to make good on her promise. The night before she was to travel to Florida, where Angie was attending school, for a face to face meeting during which she would reveal to Angie the mystery of Angie's life, she went to bed never to wake up again. Angie's hope was dashed. The only person on whom she counted to solve her life's mystery was gone. But was Liz's untimely death really an accident of nature, or part of a Machiavellian plan engineered by an invisible hand to keep Angie and, perhaps, her parents from finding the truth?
Publisher: AuthorHouse
ISBN: 1434302180
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 425
Book Description
Since her early childhood, Angie McHall noticed that there was something different about her life; although she was surrounded by a father and a mother figure, there was really no one in the house to call mom and dad. Angie was fortunate enough to have in her life her nanny, Liz Santiago. This was the woman who ended up giving her unconditional love and affection, and who would become the only mother she ever had. As Angie grew older, she realized that she was the only person in that household of a different skin color. She would later discover that the couple with whom she had learned to share her space was, in fact, her natural parents, who had chosen to treat her as a perfect stranger, because they did not have much in common with her. Angie was lost; she was engulfed in a mystery that she simply could not comprehend. She was mesmerized by what she considered to be the strange circumstances of her existence. How did Angie happen to be black when the people responsible for her birth were white? She was determined to find the answer to that question, if there were one to be found. Upon her insistence, her nanny decided that she could no longer remain indifferent to her cries; so she promised Angie that she would do all she could to help find the truth that was kept hidden from her all of her life. Liz meant what she said. She was about to make good on her promise. The night before she was to travel to Florida, where Angie was attending school, for a face to face meeting during which she would reveal to Angie the mystery of Angie's life, she went to bed never to wake up again. Angie's hope was dashed. The only person on whom she counted to solve her life's mystery was gone. But was Liz's untimely death really an accident of nature, or part of a Machiavellian plan engineered by an invisible hand to keep Angie and, perhaps, her parents from finding the truth?
Friendship--It's Complicated
Author: Andi Andrew
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1493432826
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 211
Book Description
Too often our friendships with other women can be marked by drama, competition, betrayal, and unforgiveness. As women, we can cause one another deep pain, creating wounds in need of healing. But we were made for connection and healthy friendships with other women to cheer each other on and fulfill our God-breathed purpose--together. Through vulnerable personal stories laden with joy, heartache, mistakes, and lessons learned, Andi invites you on a journey of navigating the complications that can come in friendships with other women. With practical and biblical applications throughout, this book will empower you to do the work by first facing yourself and untangling the mess, then seeking reconciliation for genuine connection, and building authentic friendships, even when it's been painful or complicated in the past.
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1493432826
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 211
Book Description
Too often our friendships with other women can be marked by drama, competition, betrayal, and unforgiveness. As women, we can cause one another deep pain, creating wounds in need of healing. But we were made for connection and healthy friendships with other women to cheer each other on and fulfill our God-breathed purpose--together. Through vulnerable personal stories laden with joy, heartache, mistakes, and lessons learned, Andi invites you on a journey of navigating the complications that can come in friendships with other women. With practical and biblical applications throughout, this book will empower you to do the work by first facing yourself and untangling the mess, then seeking reconciliation for genuine connection, and building authentic friendships, even when it's been painful or complicated in the past.
Your Way There (to Being Fully Alive)
Author: Gretta Keene
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781634895057
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
"Reading this book is like spending a sunny afternoon on a porch with a patient friend . . . who also happens to know a lot about therapy." --Peter Blauner, New York Times best-selling author With memorable stories and 100+ full-color illustrations, this lighthearted psychology self-help book shares mindfulness and psychotherapy practices for living your best life. Between social distance and social media, meaningful connection in the 21st century is complicated--not just with others, but with ourselves too. With decades of experience in psychotherapy, Gretta Keene warmly introduces positive psychology tools for elevating relationships, navigating challenges, and savoring the joy of being alive. After all, like weather, life happens. You can't change the weather--but you can learn how to change your response. Paired with whimsical artwork by William Murray, the friendly language of Your Way There makes concepts like "reparenting" and "new neural pathways" feel not just approachable, but possible. Inside this guide on how to live a meaningful life, discover how to: transform your mind and change oh well to now what?, recognize your defensive "bodyguards" and relieve them of their duties, stop having the same old fight and stay connected when things get bumpy, and use awareness-boosting tools to reclaim your agency so life doesn't just "happen to you." Full of stories that speak to the heart, Your Way There equips readers with the tools and know-how to manage life's more complex situations with wisdom, compassionate mind training, and even vital play. A warm addition to the world of happiness self-help, this book pairs the uplifting encouragement of Matt Haig's The Comfort Book with the science-based approach of titles like Unwinding Anxiety and Stop Overthinking. Whether you're already on your self-improvement journey or are "just looking" into therapy, life isn't about arriving at a destination. It's about Your Way There. So may you find your way and learn to thrive, Hopeful, awake, alive while you're alive. "An owner's manual for becoming a more connected and contented human being." --Peg Tyre, Pulitzer-Prize-winning journalist and New York Times best-selling author
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781634895057
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
"Reading this book is like spending a sunny afternoon on a porch with a patient friend . . . who also happens to know a lot about therapy." --Peter Blauner, New York Times best-selling author With memorable stories and 100+ full-color illustrations, this lighthearted psychology self-help book shares mindfulness and psychotherapy practices for living your best life. Between social distance and social media, meaningful connection in the 21st century is complicated--not just with others, but with ourselves too. With decades of experience in psychotherapy, Gretta Keene warmly introduces positive psychology tools for elevating relationships, navigating challenges, and savoring the joy of being alive. After all, like weather, life happens. You can't change the weather--but you can learn how to change your response. Paired with whimsical artwork by William Murray, the friendly language of Your Way There makes concepts like "reparenting" and "new neural pathways" feel not just approachable, but possible. Inside this guide on how to live a meaningful life, discover how to: transform your mind and change oh well to now what?, recognize your defensive "bodyguards" and relieve them of their duties, stop having the same old fight and stay connected when things get bumpy, and use awareness-boosting tools to reclaim your agency so life doesn't just "happen to you." Full of stories that speak to the heart, Your Way There equips readers with the tools and know-how to manage life's more complex situations with wisdom, compassionate mind training, and even vital play. A warm addition to the world of happiness self-help, this book pairs the uplifting encouragement of Matt Haig's The Comfort Book with the science-based approach of titles like Unwinding Anxiety and Stop Overthinking. Whether you're already on your self-improvement journey or are "just looking" into therapy, life isn't about arriving at a destination. It's about Your Way There. So may you find your way and learn to thrive, Hopeful, awake, alive while you're alive. "An owner's manual for becoming a more connected and contented human being." --Peg Tyre, Pulitzer-Prize-winning journalist and New York Times best-selling author
Always with You, Always with Me
Author: Kelly Rowland
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0593465512
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 41
Book Description
An instant New York Times bestseller! A loving ode to modern motherhood by Kelly Rowland and Jessica McKay. Grammy Award–winning artist Kelly Rowland and educator Jessica McKay have crafted a lyrical celebration of working moms everywhere and a soothing story for their children. As a mother gets ready to go to work, first she works on building the world for her child. Because it can sometimes be hard to be separated during the day, Mom collects some simple words that she and her child can repeat whenever they are missing each other or feeling overwhelmed: Always with you, always with me, mommy and child, together we'll be. For any child who needs a little reassurance or just to share a sweet gesture of affection, Always with You, Always with Me is a loving tribute to families that honors the work a mother does both inside and outside of the home.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0593465512
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 41
Book Description
An instant New York Times bestseller! A loving ode to modern motherhood by Kelly Rowland and Jessica McKay. Grammy Award–winning artist Kelly Rowland and educator Jessica McKay have crafted a lyrical celebration of working moms everywhere and a soothing story for their children. As a mother gets ready to go to work, first she works on building the world for her child. Because it can sometimes be hard to be separated during the day, Mom collects some simple words that she and her child can repeat whenever they are missing each other or feeling overwhelmed: Always with you, always with me, mommy and child, together we'll be. For any child who needs a little reassurance or just to share a sweet gesture of affection, Always with You, Always with Me is a loving tribute to families that honors the work a mother does both inside and outside of the home.
I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!
Author: Roni Cohen-Sandler
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101076984
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 289
Book Description
For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101076984
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 289
Book Description
For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.
Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1416551328
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1416551328
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
Grown and Flown
Author: Lisa Heffernan
Publisher: Flatiron Books
ISBN: 1250188954
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 291
Book Description
PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.
Publisher: Flatiron Books
ISBN: 1250188954
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 291
Book Description
PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.
Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law
Author: Susan Shapiro Barash
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780882822068
Category : Daughters-in-law
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
It's one of the oldest triangles: mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and the son/husband trapped in between. Now, Susan Barash gives readers the tools to better understand the insecurities, generational jealousies and power struggles that are inherent in these relationships. Combining candid accounts from real mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law with sound advice from noted psychologists and counselors, Barash gives insight into this complex dynamic and shows readers how to create mutually independent and rewarding relationships that allow mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law and sons/husbands to grow.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780882822068
Category : Daughters-in-law
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
It's one of the oldest triangles: mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and the son/husband trapped in between. Now, Susan Barash gives readers the tools to better understand the insecurities, generational jealousies and power struggles that are inherent in these relationships. Combining candid accounts from real mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law with sound advice from noted psychologists and counselors, Barash gives insight into this complex dynamic and shows readers how to create mutually independent and rewarding relationships that allow mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law and sons/husbands to grow.
18 Reasons Why Mothers Hate Their Babies
Author: Stephen Costello
Publisher: Strategic Book Publishing
ISBN: 1608606872
Category : Philosophy
Languages : en
Pages : 127
Book Description
This book is about babies and mothers, but also about fathers, adolescents, lovers and others. Dr. Costello explores, among other themes, eighteen reasons why mothers hate their babies, even as they love them. It's a book of aphorisms intended for everyone because childhood experiences affect us all. A lecturer in philosophy and psychology, Dr. Costello draws on a wealth of material; he shares the reflections of philosophers and psychoanalysts on a subject he clearly finds fascinating. --Amazon.com
Publisher: Strategic Book Publishing
ISBN: 1608606872
Category : Philosophy
Languages : en
Pages : 127
Book Description
This book is about babies and mothers, but also about fathers, adolescents, lovers and others. Dr. Costello explores, among other themes, eighteen reasons why mothers hate their babies, even as they love them. It's a book of aphorisms intended for everyone because childhood experiences affect us all. A lecturer in philosophy and psychology, Dr. Costello draws on a wealth of material; he shares the reflections of philosophers and psychoanalysts on a subject he clearly finds fascinating. --Amazon.com