Author: Laura Doyle
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
ISBN: 1944648607
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 280
Book Description
Can a wife single-handedly bring a boring or broken marriage back to life? This improved and expanded edition of Laura Doyle's acclaimed First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors features real-life success stories from empowered wives who have done just that—and provides a step-by-step guide to revitalizing your own marriage. Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble, and couples counseling wasn't helping. On the brink of divorce, she decided to talk to women who'd been happily married for over a decade, and their advice stunned her. From it, she distilled Six Intimacy Skills—woman-centric practices that ended her overwhelm and resentment, restoring the playfulness and passion in her marriage. Now an internationally-recognized relationship coach, Doyle has shared her secrets with women around the globe, saving thousands of marriages with her fresh, revolutionary approach. Practical and counter-intuitive, the Six Intimacy Skills are about focusing on your own desires and transforming your own life—not bending over backwards to transform your husband. Incorporating these skills will empower you to: Attract his attention like a magnet when you relax more and do less Receive affection not because you told him to make more of an effort, but because he naturally seeks you out Feel more like yourself—and like yourself more If you've been trying to "fix" your relationship and it's not working, maybe the problem was never you, or your husband, or even the two of you as a couple. Maybe the problem is that nobody ever taught you the skills you need to foster respect, tenderness, and consideration. With humor and heart, The Empowered Wife shows you how to improve your relationship in ways you hadn't thought possible. You'll join a worldwide community of over 150,000 empowered wives who finally have the marriages they dreamed of when they said "I do."
The Empowered Wife, Updated and Expanded Edition
Author: Laura Doyle
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
ISBN: 1944648607
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 280
Book Description
Can a wife single-handedly bring a boring or broken marriage back to life? This improved and expanded edition of Laura Doyle's acclaimed First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors features real-life success stories from empowered wives who have done just that—and provides a step-by-step guide to revitalizing your own marriage. Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble, and couples counseling wasn't helping. On the brink of divorce, she decided to talk to women who'd been happily married for over a decade, and their advice stunned her. From it, she distilled Six Intimacy Skills—woman-centric practices that ended her overwhelm and resentment, restoring the playfulness and passion in her marriage. Now an internationally-recognized relationship coach, Doyle has shared her secrets with women around the globe, saving thousands of marriages with her fresh, revolutionary approach. Practical and counter-intuitive, the Six Intimacy Skills are about focusing on your own desires and transforming your own life—not bending over backwards to transform your husband. Incorporating these skills will empower you to: Attract his attention like a magnet when you relax more and do less Receive affection not because you told him to make more of an effort, but because he naturally seeks you out Feel more like yourself—and like yourself more If you've been trying to "fix" your relationship and it's not working, maybe the problem was never you, or your husband, or even the two of you as a couple. Maybe the problem is that nobody ever taught you the skills you need to foster respect, tenderness, and consideration. With humor and heart, The Empowered Wife shows you how to improve your relationship in ways you hadn't thought possible. You'll join a worldwide community of over 150,000 empowered wives who finally have the marriages they dreamed of when they said "I do."
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
ISBN: 1944648607
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 280
Book Description
Can a wife single-handedly bring a boring or broken marriage back to life? This improved and expanded edition of Laura Doyle's acclaimed First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors features real-life success stories from empowered wives who have done just that—and provides a step-by-step guide to revitalizing your own marriage. Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble, and couples counseling wasn't helping. On the brink of divorce, she decided to talk to women who'd been happily married for over a decade, and their advice stunned her. From it, she distilled Six Intimacy Skills—woman-centric practices that ended her overwhelm and resentment, restoring the playfulness and passion in her marriage. Now an internationally-recognized relationship coach, Doyle has shared her secrets with women around the globe, saving thousands of marriages with her fresh, revolutionary approach. Practical and counter-intuitive, the Six Intimacy Skills are about focusing on your own desires and transforming your own life—not bending over backwards to transform your husband. Incorporating these skills will empower you to: Attract his attention like a magnet when you relax more and do less Receive affection not because you told him to make more of an effort, but because he naturally seeks you out Feel more like yourself—and like yourself more If you've been trying to "fix" your relationship and it's not working, maybe the problem was never you, or your husband, or even the two of you as a couple. Maybe the problem is that nobody ever taught you the skills you need to foster respect, tenderness, and consideration. With humor and heart, The Empowered Wife shows you how to improve your relationship in ways you hadn't thought possible. You'll join a worldwide community of over 150,000 empowered wives who finally have the marriages they dreamed of when they said "I do."
Change Your Life, Not Your Wife
Author: Tony Ferretti
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780985043407
Category : Couples
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Are you winning at work but failing at home? Save your marriage before it's too late! Divorce is everywhere. Especially among high-achieving and success-driven professionals, who may leave a trail of broken relationships in their wake. In Change Your Life, Not Your Wife, psychologist Dr. Tony Ferretti and physician Dr. Peter Weiss demystify this seeming discord-highly successful individuals failing at homestressing that the same character traits that drive career success can destroy families. Using true-to-life examples, they outline the perils of being achievement or power oriented in our intimate relationships. Eschewing blame, the authors note that usually both partners have played a role in arriving at a marital crossroads. Their good news is that relationships can get better. When couples are willing to work through their issues, dramatic improvement and healing are possible. In this book you will: discover the common personality traits behind the succeed at work/fail at home syndrome, understand how your current behavior in relationships has been shaped by your childhood experiences, assess the priorities in your life and the importance of shifting your focus from possessions to people, find simple assessments and exercises to help you evaluate your marriage, learn through a step-by-step process how to heal, nurture, and grow your marriage with proven and effective tools, and see how counseling works to help couples heal relationships, or to heal separately when relationships fail. Change Your Life, Not Your Wife can bring breakthrough changes to your marriage. This provocative message will challenge and encourage you as you get started on the road to improving your relationships. Start today!
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780985043407
Category : Couples
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Are you winning at work but failing at home? Save your marriage before it's too late! Divorce is everywhere. Especially among high-achieving and success-driven professionals, who may leave a trail of broken relationships in their wake. In Change Your Life, Not Your Wife, psychologist Dr. Tony Ferretti and physician Dr. Peter Weiss demystify this seeming discord-highly successful individuals failing at homestressing that the same character traits that drive career success can destroy families. Using true-to-life examples, they outline the perils of being achievement or power oriented in our intimate relationships. Eschewing blame, the authors note that usually both partners have played a role in arriving at a marital crossroads. Their good news is that relationships can get better. When couples are willing to work through their issues, dramatic improvement and healing are possible. In this book you will: discover the common personality traits behind the succeed at work/fail at home syndrome, understand how your current behavior in relationships has been shaped by your childhood experiences, assess the priorities in your life and the importance of shifting your focus from possessions to people, find simple assessments and exercises to help you evaluate your marriage, learn through a step-by-step process how to heal, nurture, and grow your marriage with proven and effective tools, and see how counseling works to help couples heal relationships, or to heal separately when relationships fail. Change Your Life, Not Your Wife can bring breakthrough changes to your marriage. This provocative message will challenge and encourage you as you get started on the road to improving your relationships. Start today!
A Wife’s Secret to Happiness
Author: Jen Weaver
Publisher: ACU Press
ISBN: 0891126147
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 157
Book Description
The path to marital happiness is different than you think. When our plans for marriage improvement begin with “If my husband would . . .” or “If, as a couple, we could . . .” we’re missing the secret. Despite her man’s flaws and failures, the Lord plans to bless a wife’s marriage through her husband. A Wife’s Secret to Happiness shares eleven powerful, practical blessings that God wants to pour into your lap like sweet spiritual confetti, and the wifestyle habits that will attract or reject this divine provision. No matter your title—from stay-at-home mom to business executive to ministry leader—you can celebrate God’s role for you as a wife and learn how to •Embrace vibrant marital roles without getting stuck in gender ruts •Reduce stress and busyness by building intimacy and strength •Boost love, support, and encouragement in your communication •Deepen your spousal connection so you won’t feel alone •Restore dreams for your life with your spouse Through thoughtful exploration of biblical promises, humorous hope-filled stories, and compelling testimonies, Jen shares how God empowers her life as a submissive millennial wife, and inspires readers to experience the same freedom.
Publisher: ACU Press
ISBN: 0891126147
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 157
Book Description
The path to marital happiness is different than you think. When our plans for marriage improvement begin with “If my husband would . . .” or “If, as a couple, we could . . .” we’re missing the secret. Despite her man’s flaws and failures, the Lord plans to bless a wife’s marriage through her husband. A Wife’s Secret to Happiness shares eleven powerful, practical blessings that God wants to pour into your lap like sweet spiritual confetti, and the wifestyle habits that will attract or reject this divine provision. No matter your title—from stay-at-home mom to business executive to ministry leader—you can celebrate God’s role for you as a wife and learn how to •Embrace vibrant marital roles without getting stuck in gender ruts •Reduce stress and busyness by building intimacy and strength •Boost love, support, and encouragement in your communication •Deepen your spousal connection so you won’t feel alone •Restore dreams for your life with your spouse Through thoughtful exploration of biblical promises, humorous hope-filled stories, and compelling testimonies, Jen shares how God empowers her life as a submissive millennial wife, and inspires readers to experience the same freedom.
The Surrendered Wife
Author: Laura Doyle
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743211502
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 287
Book Description
A New York Times bestseller, this controversial guide to improving your marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave. Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew—and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back. The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy. Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to: · Give up unnecessary control and responsibility · Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands · Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage—from sexual to financial · And more. The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743211502
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 287
Book Description
A New York Times bestseller, this controversial guide to improving your marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave. Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew—and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back. The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy. Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to: · Give up unnecessary control and responsibility · Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands · Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage—from sexual to financial · And more. The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.
The Peaceful Wife
Author: April Cassidy
Publisher: Kregel Publications
ISBN: 0825443946
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 263
Book Description
“This book walks each of us through the reality checks we need in order to have the marriage we want!” —Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only In today’s workplace, women are often rewarded for having type A personalities: driven, demanding, ambitious, and strong. Yet when it comes to their marriages, those same traits can backfire. After all, no one goes into marriage hoping for a promotion. What is a wife to do? April Cassidy knows this struggle firsthand. She thought she was a great Christian wife and begged God to make her passive husband into a more loving, involved, godly leader. Instead, God opened her eyes to changes that she needed to make, such as laying down her desire for control and offering genuine, unconditional respect—not just love—to her husband. Cassidy’s conclusions may be as startling to readers as they were to her, but The Peaceful Wife shares how she and many others have learned to reorient their lives to biblical commands—resulting in healthier, happier marriages. In the end, you’ll find The Peaceful Wife a powerful path to God’s design for women to live in full submission to Christ as Lord.
Publisher: Kregel Publications
ISBN: 0825443946
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 263
Book Description
“This book walks each of us through the reality checks we need in order to have the marriage we want!” —Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only In today’s workplace, women are often rewarded for having type A personalities: driven, demanding, ambitious, and strong. Yet when it comes to their marriages, those same traits can backfire. After all, no one goes into marriage hoping for a promotion. What is a wife to do? April Cassidy knows this struggle firsthand. She thought she was a great Christian wife and begged God to make her passive husband into a more loving, involved, godly leader. Instead, God opened her eyes to changes that she needed to make, such as laying down her desire for control and offering genuine, unconditional respect—not just love—to her husband. Cassidy’s conclusions may be as startling to readers as they were to her, but The Peaceful Wife shares how she and many others have learned to reorient their lives to biblical commands—resulting in healthier, happier marriages. In the end, you’ll find The Peaceful Wife a powerful path to God’s design for women to live in full submission to Christ as Lord.
Wife for Life
Author: Ramona Zabriskie
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780692273883
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 282
Book Description
In a marketplace full of relationship books that range from clinical to sensational, Ramona Zabriskie's Wife for Life, The Power to Succeed in Marriage stands out for its sympathetic, elegant wisdom. Written in a warm, feminine tone, this book masterfully interlaces authoritative voices with personal stories from the author's 35 year marriage and her motivational speaking and mentoring career. Nearly divorced two years after her own wedding, the author has become an advocate and exemplar of marital success for women who want to believe. Her compassion and know-how, uniquely presented in three parts: "Why You Both Want a Grand, Lifelong Marriage", "How to Avoid Becoming a Dream Breaker", and "What to Do to Make Dreams Come True", is proving transformative. Inspired by new perspective, women from every stage of life and marital status are gaining the skills, confidence, and long-range vision needed to affect their own happiness as well as the ultimate outcome of their marriage. Wife for Life has helped women turn troubled marriages around, transform good marriages into great ones, and grow great marriages into "grand empires of love" that can last forever.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780692273883
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 282
Book Description
In a marketplace full of relationship books that range from clinical to sensational, Ramona Zabriskie's Wife for Life, The Power to Succeed in Marriage stands out for its sympathetic, elegant wisdom. Written in a warm, feminine tone, this book masterfully interlaces authoritative voices with personal stories from the author's 35 year marriage and her motivational speaking and mentoring career. Nearly divorced two years after her own wedding, the author has become an advocate and exemplar of marital success for women who want to believe. Her compassion and know-how, uniquely presented in three parts: "Why You Both Want a Grand, Lifelong Marriage", "How to Avoid Becoming a Dream Breaker", and "What to Do to Make Dreams Come True", is proving transformative. Inspired by new perspective, women from every stage of life and marital status are gaining the skills, confidence, and long-range vision needed to affect their own happiness as well as the ultimate outcome of their marriage. Wife for Life has helped women turn troubled marriages around, transform good marriages into great ones, and grow great marriages into "grand empires of love" that can last forever.
The Incorporated Wife
Author: Hilary Callan
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
ISBN: 1000632962
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
Originally published in 1984, this book touches the private lives and professional responsibilities of men and women, as it illustrates the comic as well as serious effects of the ‘incorporation’ of wives into some important State and commercial institutions. Beyond their domestic functions, wives have, in particular ways, been valuable props to many a husband’s career and many an employer’s and the nation’s interests. For example, the Army, civil administrations at home and overseas, and the police have, without questioning, depended on the services of wives – given silently, willingly or unwillingly. Yet the nature of the relationship of these ‘incorporated’ wives to the objectives of such institutions has, until recently, been largely unregistered in practice, unrecorded in social and historical accounts and unstudied by analysts. This book provides a wealth of ethnographic material. Personal anecdotes and scholarly interpretations throw light on the conceptual systems underlying the workings and cultures of institutions, as well as the construction of identities. Many will find their experiences echoed here. The issues raised are important not only for individual men and women, for whom such ‘incorporation’ may provide advantages as well as constraints, but because of the bearing they have on our understanding of marriage, especially since we cannot be sure this will continue in its present mode or as the dominant form of conjugal union. As more married women assume greater responsibilities at work, will their husbands give the same support to their wives and those who employ them as they themselves received? Further, it seems likely that wives may become less willing than in the past to render their services unacknowledged – indeed this trend is already apparent. We may ask, then, ‘who will fill the gaps?’, and ‘how will institutions change?’. The historical and contemporary studies here provide some base data and some theoretical approaches necessary for any who may wish to consider what will become increasingly acute practical questions.
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
ISBN: 1000632962
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
Originally published in 1984, this book touches the private lives and professional responsibilities of men and women, as it illustrates the comic as well as serious effects of the ‘incorporation’ of wives into some important State and commercial institutions. Beyond their domestic functions, wives have, in particular ways, been valuable props to many a husband’s career and many an employer’s and the nation’s interests. For example, the Army, civil administrations at home and overseas, and the police have, without questioning, depended on the services of wives – given silently, willingly or unwillingly. Yet the nature of the relationship of these ‘incorporated’ wives to the objectives of such institutions has, until recently, been largely unregistered in practice, unrecorded in social and historical accounts and unstudied by analysts. This book provides a wealth of ethnographic material. Personal anecdotes and scholarly interpretations throw light on the conceptual systems underlying the workings and cultures of institutions, as well as the construction of identities. Many will find their experiences echoed here. The issues raised are important not only for individual men and women, for whom such ‘incorporation’ may provide advantages as well as constraints, but because of the bearing they have on our understanding of marriage, especially since we cannot be sure this will continue in its present mode or as the dominant form of conjugal union. As more married women assume greater responsibilities at work, will their husbands give the same support to their wives and those who employ them as they themselves received? Further, it seems likely that wives may become less willing than in the past to render their services unacknowledged – indeed this trend is already apparent. We may ask, then, ‘who will fill the gaps?’, and ‘how will institutions change?’. The historical and contemporary studies here provide some base data and some theoretical approaches necessary for any who may wish to consider what will become increasingly acute practical questions.
Circles and Settings
Author: Helena Znaniecka Lopata
Publisher: SUNY Press
ISBN: 9780791417676
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
Circles and Settings: Role Changes of American Women is an original, comprehensive analysis of changing roles of American women at a time of great upheaval and public, as well as social science, commentary. Using a symbolic interactionist framework, with role seen as a set of negotiated relations, Lopata analyses the roles of wife, mother, kin member (daughter, sister, grandmother) homemaker, job holder in different settings, as well as friend, neighbor, volunteer, and activist. This book comprehensively pulls together all the major involvements of American women using both historical and comparative perspectives to show the evolution of these roles over the last century.
Publisher: SUNY Press
ISBN: 9780791417676
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
Circles and Settings: Role Changes of American Women is an original, comprehensive analysis of changing roles of American women at a time of great upheaval and public, as well as social science, commentary. Using a symbolic interactionist framework, with role seen as a set of negotiated relations, Lopata analyses the roles of wife, mother, kin member (daughter, sister, grandmother) homemaker, job holder in different settings, as well as friend, neighbor, volunteer, and activist. This book comprehensively pulls together all the major involvements of American women using both historical and comparative perspectives to show the evolution of these roles over the last century.
Wife, Inc.
Author: Suzanne Leonard
Publisher: NYU Press
ISBN: 1479802514
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 263
Book Description
A fascinating look at the changing role of wives in modern America After a half century of battling for gender equality, women have been freed from the necessity of securing a husband for economic stability, sexual fulfillment, or procreation. Marriage is a choice, and increasingly women (and men) are opting out. Yet despite these changes, the cultural power of marriage has burgeoned. What was once an obligation has become an exclusive club into which heterosexual women with the right amount of self-discipline may win entry. The newly exalted professionalized wife is no longer reliant on her husband’s status or money; instead she can wield her own power provided she can successfully manage the business of being a wife. Wife, Inc. tells a fiercely contemporary story revealing that today’s wives do not labor in kitchens or even homes. Instead, the work of wifedom occurs in online dating sites, on reality television, in social media, and on the campaign trail. Dating, marital commitment, and married life have been reconfigured. No longer the stuff of marriage vows, these realms are now controlled by brand management and marketability. To prosper, women must appear confident, empowered, and sexually savvy. Guiding readers through the stages of the “wife-cycle,” Suzanne Leonard follows women as they date, prepare to wed, and toil as wives, using examples from popular television, film, and literature, as well as mass market news, women’s magazines, new media, and advice culture. The first major study to focus on this new definition of “working wives,” Wife, Inc. reveals how marriage occupies a newly professionalized role in the lives of American women. Being a wife is a business that takes a lot more than a vow to maintain—this book tells that story.
Publisher: NYU Press
ISBN: 1479802514
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 263
Book Description
A fascinating look at the changing role of wives in modern America After a half century of battling for gender equality, women have been freed from the necessity of securing a husband for economic stability, sexual fulfillment, or procreation. Marriage is a choice, and increasingly women (and men) are opting out. Yet despite these changes, the cultural power of marriage has burgeoned. What was once an obligation has become an exclusive club into which heterosexual women with the right amount of self-discipline may win entry. The newly exalted professionalized wife is no longer reliant on her husband’s status or money; instead she can wield her own power provided she can successfully manage the business of being a wife. Wife, Inc. tells a fiercely contemporary story revealing that today’s wives do not labor in kitchens or even homes. Instead, the work of wifedom occurs in online dating sites, on reality television, in social media, and on the campaign trail. Dating, marital commitment, and married life have been reconfigured. No longer the stuff of marriage vows, these realms are now controlled by brand management and marketability. To prosper, women must appear confident, empowered, and sexually savvy. Guiding readers through the stages of the “wife-cycle,” Suzanne Leonard follows women as they date, prepare to wed, and toil as wives, using examples from popular television, film, and literature, as well as mass market news, women’s magazines, new media, and advice culture. The first major study to focus on this new definition of “working wives,” Wife, Inc. reveals how marriage occupies a newly professionalized role in the lives of American women. Being a wife is a business that takes a lot more than a vow to maintain—this book tells that story.
Expat Wife, Happy Life!
Author: Florence Reisch-Gentinetta
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781784529567
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 192
Book Description
"Darling, I have been promoted and they've asked us to move abroad!" That's what I dreamed of: adventure, change, freedom... but now? Really? Right now? I'm not ready, I'm not organized, the kids, me, us, and everything that goes with it... How do I know if this is the right decision? If these questions resonate, this book is for you. While Florence's experience is as unique as yours is or will be, our questions and fears are often the same. Florence's personal reflections will guide you and open you to new and different ways of thinking and acting for your life abroad.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781784529567
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 192
Book Description
"Darling, I have been promoted and they've asked us to move abroad!" That's what I dreamed of: adventure, change, freedom... but now? Really? Right now? I'm not ready, I'm not organized, the kids, me, us, and everything that goes with it... How do I know if this is the right decision? If these questions resonate, this book is for you. While Florence's experience is as unique as yours is or will be, our questions and fears are often the same. Florence's personal reflections will guide you and open you to new and different ways of thinking and acting for your life abroad.