Author: Les Barbanell
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780765704108
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Character traits may be used as defenses, or, 'coping mechanisms' that may be developed by individuals in an exaggerated fashion in order to conceal psychological conflicts. When these mechanisms break down, previously repressed trauma erupts into consciousness. One such trait is selflessness. Les Barbanell examines the transformation of selflessness into the Caretaker Personality Disorder and how it is not always better to give than receive, that being good can go bad, and that the 'disease to please' can even be fatal.
Removing the Mask of Kindness
Author: Les Barbanell
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780765704108
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Character traits may be used as defenses, or, 'coping mechanisms' that may be developed by individuals in an exaggerated fashion in order to conceal psychological conflicts. When these mechanisms break down, previously repressed trauma erupts into consciousness. One such trait is selflessness. Les Barbanell examines the transformation of selflessness into the Caretaker Personality Disorder and how it is not always better to give than receive, that being good can go bad, and that the 'disease to please' can even be fatal.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780765704108
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Character traits may be used as defenses, or, 'coping mechanisms' that may be developed by individuals in an exaggerated fashion in order to conceal psychological conflicts. When these mechanisms break down, previously repressed trauma erupts into consciousness. One such trait is selflessness. Les Barbanell examines the transformation of selflessness into the Caretaker Personality Disorder and how it is not always better to give than receive, that being good can go bad, and that the 'disease to please' can even be fatal.
The Mask of Masculinity
Author: Lewis Howes
Publisher: Hay House, Inc
ISBN: 1788171284
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 196
Book Description
‘This is one of the most important topics today that seemingly no one is talking about: how men can take care of their emotional health in a 21st century that demands it. Crucial reading for any young or struggling man.’ - Mark Manson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck At 30 years old, Lewis Howes was outwardly thriving but unfulfilled inside. He was a successful athlete and businessman, achieving goals beyond his wildest dreams, but he felt empty, angry, frustrated, and always chasing something that was never enough. His whole identity had been built on misguided beliefs about what "masculinity" was. Howes began a personal journey to find inner peace and to uncover the many masks that men – young and old – wear. In The Mask of Masculinity, Howes exposes: · The ultimate emptiness of the Material Mask, the man who chases wealth above all things; · The cowering vulnerability that hides behind the Joker and Stoic Masks of men who never show real emotion; and · The destructiveness of the Invincible and Aggressive Masks worn by men who take insane risks or can never back down from a fight. He teaches men how to break through the walls that hold them back and shows women how they can better understand the men in their lives. It's not easy, but if you want to love, be loved and live a great life, then it's an odyssey of self-discovery that all modern men must make. This book is a must-read for every man – and for every woman who loves a man.
Publisher: Hay House, Inc
ISBN: 1788171284
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 196
Book Description
‘This is one of the most important topics today that seemingly no one is talking about: how men can take care of their emotional health in a 21st century that demands it. Crucial reading for any young or struggling man.’ - Mark Manson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck At 30 years old, Lewis Howes was outwardly thriving but unfulfilled inside. He was a successful athlete and businessman, achieving goals beyond his wildest dreams, but he felt empty, angry, frustrated, and always chasing something that was never enough. His whole identity had been built on misguided beliefs about what "masculinity" was. Howes began a personal journey to find inner peace and to uncover the many masks that men – young and old – wear. In The Mask of Masculinity, Howes exposes: · The ultimate emptiness of the Material Mask, the man who chases wealth above all things; · The cowering vulnerability that hides behind the Joker and Stoic Masks of men who never show real emotion; and · The destructiveness of the Invincible and Aggressive Masks worn by men who take insane risks or can never back down from a fight. He teaches men how to break through the walls that hold them back and shows women how they can better understand the men in their lives. It's not easy, but if you want to love, be loved and live a great life, then it's an odyssey of self-discovery that all modern men must make. This book is a must-read for every man – and for every woman who loves a man.
Breaking the Addiction to Please
Author: Les Barbanell
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 0765706768
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 175
Book Description
Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent, an ailing spouse, or a handicapped child and do so out of love, devotion, or obligation, and many others have caretaking occupations in the areas of nursing, social work, counseling, and so on. But there are other less benign caretakers in our midst. These people have an excessive need to be needed, and they assume the caretaking role not out of love, obligation, or choice of profession but due to unconscious motivations over which they have little control. This addiction to pleasing others can be as debilitating as substance addictions. Les Barbanell shows that this addiction, which he calls 'caretaker personality disorder,' masks psychological conflicts and can be a self-destructive force leading to exhaustion, emptiness, even suicide. Barbanell provides strategies for learning to say no, retraining one's focus from others to oneself, gaining freedom from past traumas and abuse, and learning to express rather than repress feelings in order to find a balance between kindness and a pathological level of selflessness. This book is a must-read for those suffering from the addiction to please, their families, and psychotherapists and counselors who work with them. Praise for Les Barbanell's Removing the Mask of Kindness 'Barbanell delineates the pathological side of selflessness and argues, as the title suggests, that kindness can serve as a psychological mechanism for concealing emotional problems_.The author effectively charts the defining characteristics of a heretofore-unrecognized diagnostic category: caretaker personality disorder (CPD). _Recommended.' -CHOICE 'Les Barbanell reveals a new and shocking defense mechanism that individuals use to hid psychological conflicts. The caretaker personality disorder helps explain why an accommodating, sacrificing individual, who is always concerned with others, can end up miserable and feeling incomplete. A must read for anyone in the helping professions.' -United States Association for Body Psychotherapy Newsletter
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 0765706768
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 175
Book Description
Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent, an ailing spouse, or a handicapped child and do so out of love, devotion, or obligation, and many others have caretaking occupations in the areas of nursing, social work, counseling, and so on. But there are other less benign caretakers in our midst. These people have an excessive need to be needed, and they assume the caretaking role not out of love, obligation, or choice of profession but due to unconscious motivations over which they have little control. This addiction to pleasing others can be as debilitating as substance addictions. Les Barbanell shows that this addiction, which he calls 'caretaker personality disorder,' masks psychological conflicts and can be a self-destructive force leading to exhaustion, emptiness, even suicide. Barbanell provides strategies for learning to say no, retraining one's focus from others to oneself, gaining freedom from past traumas and abuse, and learning to express rather than repress feelings in order to find a balance between kindness and a pathological level of selflessness. This book is a must-read for those suffering from the addiction to please, their families, and psychotherapists and counselors who work with them. Praise for Les Barbanell's Removing the Mask of Kindness 'Barbanell delineates the pathological side of selflessness and argues, as the title suggests, that kindness can serve as a psychological mechanism for concealing emotional problems_.The author effectively charts the defining characteristics of a heretofore-unrecognized diagnostic category: caretaker personality disorder (CPD). _Recommended.' -CHOICE 'Les Barbanell reveals a new and shocking defense mechanism that individuals use to hid psychological conflicts. The caretaker personality disorder helps explain why an accommodating, sacrificing individual, who is always concerned with others, can end up miserable and feeling incomplete. A must read for anyone in the helping professions.' -United States Association for Body Psychotherapy Newsletter
Cold-Blooded Kindness
Author: Barbara Oakley, PhD
Publisher: Prometheus Books
ISBN: 1616144203
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 373
Book Description
In this searing exploration of deadly codependency, the author takes the reader on a spellbinding voyage of discovery that examines the questions: Are some people naturally too caring? Is caring sometimes a mask for darker motives? Can science help us understand how our concerns for others can hurt everything we hold dear? This gripping story brings extraordinary insight to our deepest questions. Is kindness always the right answer? Is kindness always what it seems?
Publisher: Prometheus Books
ISBN: 1616144203
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 373
Book Description
In this searing exploration of deadly codependency, the author takes the reader on a spellbinding voyage of discovery that examines the questions: Are some people naturally too caring? Is caring sometimes a mask for darker motives? Can science help us understand how our concerns for others can hurt everything we hold dear? This gripping story brings extraordinary insight to our deepest questions. Is kindness always the right answer? Is kindness always what it seems?
The Haunted Mask (Goosebumps Most Wanted)
Author: R. L. Stine
Publisher: Scholastic Inc.
ISBN: 0545415187
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 178
Book Description
For the first time ever, Goosebumps is in hard cover! Catch the series' most notorious characters--undead or alive... For the first time ever, Goosebumps is in hard cover! Catch the series' most notorious characters--undead or alive...From horror master R.L. Stine come two new chilling stories in one spooky standalone:Lu-Ann Franklin usually loves Halloween. Not this year. Her best friend, Devin O'Bannon, is going away for the week. And she has to go to a boring party where nothing exciting could ever happen. But when Lu-Ann comes face-to-face with The Haunted Mask, major trouble lies ahead.Devin O'Bannon didn't want to leave his best friend Lu-Ann Franklin behind on Halloween. He didn't ask to go on this trip. And that was before he heard the strange scratching on his windows and saw the shadows moving around in the fields. Something is out there and it doesn't seem to want Devin around!
Publisher: Scholastic Inc.
ISBN: 0545415187
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 178
Book Description
For the first time ever, Goosebumps is in hard cover! Catch the series' most notorious characters--undead or alive... For the first time ever, Goosebumps is in hard cover! Catch the series' most notorious characters--undead or alive...From horror master R.L. Stine come two new chilling stories in one spooky standalone:Lu-Ann Franklin usually loves Halloween. Not this year. Her best friend, Devin O'Bannon, is going away for the week. And she has to go to a boring party where nothing exciting could ever happen. But when Lu-Ann comes face-to-face with The Haunted Mask, major trouble lies ahead.Devin O'Bannon didn't want to leave his best friend Lu-Ann Franklin behind on Halloween. He didn't ask to go on this trip. And that was before he heard the strange scratching on his windows and saw the shadows moving around in the fields. Something is out there and it doesn't seem to want Devin around!
Refugee Lives in the Archives
Author: Gillian Whitlock
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN: 1350279994
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 185
Book Description
This book introduces the unique archive of letters, textiles, hand-drawn maps, emails and photographs from asylum seekers held indefinitely in offshore detention at Topside Camp, Nauru 2001-5. These artefacts introduce the distinctive and creative forms of resistance produced by asylum seekers in the remote Pacific camps on Nauru and Manus Island, and they expose their experiential histories of radical suffering and trauma. Paying due deference to the creative and aesthetic agency of these various documents and artefacts created by the undocumented here, Gillian Whitlock generates a cultural biography of the Nauru camp that humanizes those who have remained unseen and unheard, and features the activist campaigns and the political resistance that assert the agency of witnessing refugees. Structured around the collections of various artefacts exchanged between detainees and humanitarian activists, Refugee Lives in the Archives draws on emerging theories from detention centres and the asylum seekers themselves in a distinctive and expansive Pacific imaginary of refugee life narrative. Building on Whitlock's substantial body of work in testimonial, documentary and archive practices, this book focuses on the 'testimony of things' and probes an approach to archival studies that moves life writing in new directions, to respond collaboratively to the diverse materiality of story-telling and exchanges in the unique and creative forms of asylum seekers' voices, stories and epistemologies.
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN: 1350279994
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 185
Book Description
This book introduces the unique archive of letters, textiles, hand-drawn maps, emails and photographs from asylum seekers held indefinitely in offshore detention at Topside Camp, Nauru 2001-5. These artefacts introduce the distinctive and creative forms of resistance produced by asylum seekers in the remote Pacific camps on Nauru and Manus Island, and they expose their experiential histories of radical suffering and trauma. Paying due deference to the creative and aesthetic agency of these various documents and artefacts created by the undocumented here, Gillian Whitlock generates a cultural biography of the Nauru camp that humanizes those who have remained unseen and unheard, and features the activist campaigns and the political resistance that assert the agency of witnessing refugees. Structured around the collections of various artefacts exchanged between detainees and humanitarian activists, Refugee Lives in the Archives draws on emerging theories from detention centres and the asylum seekers themselves in a distinctive and expansive Pacific imaginary of refugee life narrative. Building on Whitlock's substantial body of work in testimonial, documentary and archive practices, this book focuses on the 'testimony of things' and probes an approach to archival studies that moves life writing in new directions, to respond collaboratively to the diverse materiality of story-telling and exchanges in the unique and creative forms of asylum seekers' voices, stories and epistemologies.
Beyond Addiction
Author: Jeffrey Foote
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476709475
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. Beyond Addiction eschews the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help their loved ones change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer. Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. Learn how to tap the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is designed not only to help someone change, but to help someone want to change.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476709475
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. Beyond Addiction eschews the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help their loved ones change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer. Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. Learn how to tap the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is designed not only to help someone change, but to help someone want to change.
Daily Motivations for African-American Success
Author: Dennis Kimbro
Publisher: Fawcett
ISBN: 0307797414
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 381
Book Description
Inside are the tools that will help you focus on the thoughts, attitudes, and deeds that will lead to the achievement of your true goals. In 365 short, powerful motivations, one for each day of the year, Dennis Kimbro, author of the popular THINK AND GROW RICH: A BLACK CHOICE, offers a treasure trove of practical inspiration that will give you fresh encouragement every day of the year. What it teaches you will last a lifetime.
Publisher: Fawcett
ISBN: 0307797414
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 381
Book Description
Inside are the tools that will help you focus on the thoughts, attitudes, and deeds that will lead to the achievement of your true goals. In 365 short, powerful motivations, one for each day of the year, Dennis Kimbro, author of the popular THINK AND GROW RICH: A BLACK CHOICE, offers a treasure trove of practical inspiration that will give you fresh encouragement every day of the year. What it teaches you will last a lifetime.
Be Kind
Author: Jaclyn Lindsey
Publisher: Rock Point
ISBN: 1631066846
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 243
Book Description
Produced in partnership with the nonprofit organization Kindness.org, Be Kind emboldens you to perform a simple and effective act of kindness every week for a year, benefiting others and yourself while deepening connections in your communities big and small. Each of the 52 weeks of kindness includes a dose of inspiration (e.g. a quote from an influential person or an authentic personal gratitude letter); a fascinating stat or fact about kindness that has been researched by Kindlab (e.g. 72 percent of employees think it is important or very important for an employer to recognize kind acts in the workplace.); and a suggestion for an act of kindness to perform in one of the following areas: Kindness to self Kindness with kids Kindness toward those around you(service workers, people experiencing homelessness, etc.) Kindness as a group Kindness to the environment Kindness at work Cyber-kindness Fully illustrated, engaging, and inspiring, Be Kind will have you changing not only yourself and your communities, but also the world, one week at a time. Words of encouragement and inspiration from women around the world come together in the Everyday Inspiration series from Rock Point. Follow the journeys of hundreds of strong female leaders from past to present through thoughtful biographies and empowering quotes. The perfect gift for family and friends, these gorgeous hardcovers featuring foiled covers and full-color interiors bring these amazing words of wisdom to life. Other titles in the series include: Beautifully Said; Grit & Grace; Find Your Glow, Feed Your Soul; Choose Happy; and Hello Gorgeous!
Publisher: Rock Point
ISBN: 1631066846
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 243
Book Description
Produced in partnership with the nonprofit organization Kindness.org, Be Kind emboldens you to perform a simple and effective act of kindness every week for a year, benefiting others and yourself while deepening connections in your communities big and small. Each of the 52 weeks of kindness includes a dose of inspiration (e.g. a quote from an influential person or an authentic personal gratitude letter); a fascinating stat or fact about kindness that has been researched by Kindlab (e.g. 72 percent of employees think it is important or very important for an employer to recognize kind acts in the workplace.); and a suggestion for an act of kindness to perform in one of the following areas: Kindness to self Kindness with kids Kindness toward those around you(service workers, people experiencing homelessness, etc.) Kindness as a group Kindness to the environment Kindness at work Cyber-kindness Fully illustrated, engaging, and inspiring, Be Kind will have you changing not only yourself and your communities, but also the world, one week at a time. Words of encouragement and inspiration from women around the world come together in the Everyday Inspiration series from Rock Point. Follow the journeys of hundreds of strong female leaders from past to present through thoughtful biographies and empowering quotes. The perfect gift for family and friends, these gorgeous hardcovers featuring foiled covers and full-color interiors bring these amazing words of wisdom to life. Other titles in the series include: Beautifully Said; Grit & Grace; Find Your Glow, Feed Your Soul; Choose Happy; and Hello Gorgeous!
SELFLESS SOCIETY
Author: Barghavi Parthiban
Publisher: Spectrum of thoughts
ISBN:
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 149
Book Description
Selfless society is an anthology penned by 40 writers about the act of selflessness that they have witnessed in their day-to-day life. Many people may have this question in their mind, "Do selflessness still persists amongst people?" , "Is humanity dead?". This anthology answers all such questions as we strongly believe that humanity is not dead, it's just left unspoken. This book throws light on all how our society contains so many beautiful hearts who care for their fellow beings without even knowing each other.
Publisher: Spectrum of thoughts
ISBN:
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 149
Book Description
Selfless society is an anthology penned by 40 writers about the act of selflessness that they have witnessed in their day-to-day life. Many people may have this question in their mind, "Do selflessness still persists amongst people?" , "Is humanity dead?". This anthology answers all such questions as we strongly believe that humanity is not dead, it's just left unspoken. This book throws light on all how our society contains so many beautiful hearts who care for their fellow beings without even knowing each other.