Author: Doug Moe
Publisher: Skip Intro Press
ISBN:
Category : Humor
Languages : en
Pages : 197
Book Description
Man vs. Child is a funny, fresh take on the parenting guide, written from the dad’s perspective. It’s about the absurdity of being a dad today: from your blissful pre-baby days through when your kid is off at school, probably complaining about you. It’s a companion to help you through the hard times, like when you need something to read on the toilet and your phone is dead. NAMED ONE OF AMAZON’S BEST HUMOR BOOKS OF 2017 Balancing relatable humor with heartfelt advice, Man vs. Child will appeal to any dad looking for both laughs and real guidance from a man who has had--and survived--these experiences himself. A perfect Father's Day gift or present for a first-time dad! PRAISE FOR MAN VS. CHILD: “Doug Moe has written a delightful and helpful book that gives real advice about the Wild West world of raising children.” - Amy Poehler, actress, comedian, and NYT bestselling author of Yes, Please “Moe ‘describes the awed affection new fathers may have for their children with relatable humor and genuine insight, offering a promising resource for the curious and the clueless.’” - The New Yorker “From tackling toddler meltdowns to bringing up baby in any conversation, comedian Doug Moe’s irreverent take on the absurdity of fatherhood is a refreshing read for new dads. It feels like you’re chatting with a friend who admittedly doesn’t know everything, but does know exactly what you’re going through.” - Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine “Wow is it terrific -- funny, smart, relatable, and actually filled with some very good tips, from handling sleepless nights for tips to get rid of your kids’ weird friends on playdates.” - Cool Mom Picks “Yes, it’s just one man’s point of view, but we have a feeling your guy will find more than enough in common with this hilarious dad-in-training.” - PureWow
Man vs. Child: One Dad’s Guide to the Weirdness of Parenting
Author: Doug Moe
Publisher: Skip Intro Press
ISBN:
Category : Humor
Languages : en
Pages : 197
Book Description
Man vs. Child is a funny, fresh take on the parenting guide, written from the dad’s perspective. It’s about the absurdity of being a dad today: from your blissful pre-baby days through when your kid is off at school, probably complaining about you. It’s a companion to help you through the hard times, like when you need something to read on the toilet and your phone is dead. NAMED ONE OF AMAZON’S BEST HUMOR BOOKS OF 2017 Balancing relatable humor with heartfelt advice, Man vs. Child will appeal to any dad looking for both laughs and real guidance from a man who has had--and survived--these experiences himself. A perfect Father's Day gift or present for a first-time dad! PRAISE FOR MAN VS. CHILD: “Doug Moe has written a delightful and helpful book that gives real advice about the Wild West world of raising children.” - Amy Poehler, actress, comedian, and NYT bestselling author of Yes, Please “Moe ‘describes the awed affection new fathers may have for their children with relatable humor and genuine insight, offering a promising resource for the curious and the clueless.’” - The New Yorker “From tackling toddler meltdowns to bringing up baby in any conversation, comedian Doug Moe’s irreverent take on the absurdity of fatherhood is a refreshing read for new dads. It feels like you’re chatting with a friend who admittedly doesn’t know everything, but does know exactly what you’re going through.” - Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine “Wow is it terrific -- funny, smart, relatable, and actually filled with some very good tips, from handling sleepless nights for tips to get rid of your kids’ weird friends on playdates.” - Cool Mom Picks “Yes, it’s just one man’s point of view, but we have a feeling your guy will find more than enough in common with this hilarious dad-in-training.” - PureWow
Publisher: Skip Intro Press
ISBN:
Category : Humor
Languages : en
Pages : 197
Book Description
Man vs. Child is a funny, fresh take on the parenting guide, written from the dad’s perspective. It’s about the absurdity of being a dad today: from your blissful pre-baby days through when your kid is off at school, probably complaining about you. It’s a companion to help you through the hard times, like when you need something to read on the toilet and your phone is dead. NAMED ONE OF AMAZON’S BEST HUMOR BOOKS OF 2017 Balancing relatable humor with heartfelt advice, Man vs. Child will appeal to any dad looking for both laughs and real guidance from a man who has had--and survived--these experiences himself. A perfect Father's Day gift or present for a first-time dad! PRAISE FOR MAN VS. CHILD: “Doug Moe has written a delightful and helpful book that gives real advice about the Wild West world of raising children.” - Amy Poehler, actress, comedian, and NYT bestselling author of Yes, Please “Moe ‘describes the awed affection new fathers may have for their children with relatable humor and genuine insight, offering a promising resource for the curious and the clueless.’” - The New Yorker “From tackling toddler meltdowns to bringing up baby in any conversation, comedian Doug Moe’s irreverent take on the absurdity of fatherhood is a refreshing read for new dads. It feels like you’re chatting with a friend who admittedly doesn’t know everything, but does know exactly what you’re going through.” - Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine “Wow is it terrific -- funny, smart, relatable, and actually filled with some very good tips, from handling sleepless nights for tips to get rid of your kids’ weird friends on playdates.” - Cool Mom Picks “Yes, it’s just one man’s point of view, but we have a feeling your guy will find more than enough in common with this hilarious dad-in-training.” - PureWow
Surrender, White People!
Author: D. L. Hughley
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062953729
Category : Humor
Languages : en
Pages : 174
Book Description
THE NATIONAL BESTSELLER "Hughley uses his trademark humor to address the stark divisions in society that stem from centuries of white supremacy." —People Surrender, white people! After 400 years of white supremacy in America, a reckoning is here. These are the terms of peace–and they are unconditional. Hope you brought a sense of humor, because this is gonna sting. After centuries of oppressing others, white people are in for a surprise: You’re about to be a minority yourself. Yes, the face of America is getting a lot browner—and a reckoning is coming. Black and brown folk are not going to take a back seat anymore. It’s time to surrender your unjust privileges and sue for peace while the getting’s still good. Lucky for America, D.L. Hughley has a plan. On the eve of America becoming a majority-minority nation, Hughley warns, the only way for America to move forward peacefully is if Whites face their history, put aside all their visions of superiority, and open up their institutions so they benefit everyone in this nation. But we can still have fun with this right? Surrender, White People! hilariously holds America account for its wrongs and offers D.L.'s satirical terms for reparations and reconciliation. But it’s not all bad news, white folks. The upside is that if you put D.L.’s plan into effect, you can FINALLY get black people to stop talking about oppression, discrimination, and their place in America. Now, that’s something we ALL can get behind.
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062953729
Category : Humor
Languages : en
Pages : 174
Book Description
THE NATIONAL BESTSELLER "Hughley uses his trademark humor to address the stark divisions in society that stem from centuries of white supremacy." —People Surrender, white people! After 400 years of white supremacy in America, a reckoning is here. These are the terms of peace–and they are unconditional. Hope you brought a sense of humor, because this is gonna sting. After centuries of oppressing others, white people are in for a surprise: You’re about to be a minority yourself. Yes, the face of America is getting a lot browner—and a reckoning is coming. Black and brown folk are not going to take a back seat anymore. It’s time to surrender your unjust privileges and sue for peace while the getting’s still good. Lucky for America, D.L. Hughley has a plan. On the eve of America becoming a majority-minority nation, Hughley warns, the only way for America to move forward peacefully is if Whites face their history, put aside all their visions of superiority, and open up their institutions so they benefit everyone in this nation. But we can still have fun with this right? Surrender, White People! hilariously holds America account for its wrongs and offers D.L.'s satirical terms for reparations and reconciliation. But it’s not all bad news, white folks. The upside is that if you put D.L.’s plan into effect, you can FINALLY get black people to stop talking about oppression, discrimination, and their place in America. Now, that’s something we ALL can get behind.
Father Figure
Author: Jordan Shapiro
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 031645995X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 304
Book Description
A thoughtful and "utterly mind-blowing" exploration of fatherhood and masculinity in the 21st century (New York Times). There are hundreds of books on parenting, and with good reason—becoming a parent is scary, difficult, and life-changing. But when it comes to books about parenting identity, rather than the nuts and bolts of raising children, nearly all are about what it's like to be a mother. Drawing on research in sociology, economics, philosophy, gender studies, and the author's own experiences, Father Figure sets out to fill that gap. It's an exploration of the psychology of fatherhood from an archetypal perspective as well as a cultural history that challenges familiar assumptions about the origins of so-called traditional parenting roles. What paradoxes and contradictions are inherent in our common understanding of dads? Might it be time to rethink some aspects of fatherhood? Gender norms are changing, and old economic models are facing disruption. As a result, parenthood and family life are undergoing an existential transformation. And yet, the narratives and images of dads available to us are wholly inadequate for this transition. Victorian and Industrial Age tropes about fathers not only dominate the media, but also contour most people's lived experience. Father Figure offers a badly needed update to our collective understanding of fatherhood—and masculinity in general. It teaches dads how to embrace the joys of fathering while guiding them toward an image of manliness for the modern world.
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 031645995X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 304
Book Description
A thoughtful and "utterly mind-blowing" exploration of fatherhood and masculinity in the 21st century (New York Times). There are hundreds of books on parenting, and with good reason—becoming a parent is scary, difficult, and life-changing. But when it comes to books about parenting identity, rather than the nuts and bolts of raising children, nearly all are about what it's like to be a mother. Drawing on research in sociology, economics, philosophy, gender studies, and the author's own experiences, Father Figure sets out to fill that gap. It's an exploration of the psychology of fatherhood from an archetypal perspective as well as a cultural history that challenges familiar assumptions about the origins of so-called traditional parenting roles. What paradoxes and contradictions are inherent in our common understanding of dads? Might it be time to rethink some aspects of fatherhood? Gender norms are changing, and old economic models are facing disruption. As a result, parenthood and family life are undergoing an existential transformation. And yet, the narratives and images of dads available to us are wholly inadequate for this transition. Victorian and Industrial Age tropes about fathers not only dominate the media, but also contour most people's lived experience. Father Figure offers a badly needed update to our collective understanding of fatherhood—and masculinity in general. It teaches dads how to embrace the joys of fathering while guiding them toward an image of manliness for the modern world.
How Not to Get Shot
Author: D. L. Hughley
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062698559
Category : Political Science
Languages : en
Pages : 190
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A GOODREADS CHOICE AWARDS FINALIST "Hilarious yet soul-shaking." —Black Enterprise The fearless comedy legend—one of the “Original Kings of Comedy”—hilariously breaks down the wisdom of white people, advice that has been killing black folks in America for four hundred years and counting. 200 years ago, white people told black folks, “‘I suggest you pick the cotton if you don’t like getting whipped.” Today, it’s “comply with police orders if you don’t want to get shot.” Now comedian/activist D. L. Hughley–one the Original Kings of Comedy–confronts and remixes white people’s “advice” in this “hilarious examination of the current state of race relations in the United States” (Publishers Weekly). In America, a black man is three times more likely to be killed in encounters with police than a white guy. If only he hadcomplied with the cop, he might be alive today, pundits say in the aftermath of the latest shooting of an unarmed black man. Or, Maybe he shouldn’t have worn that hoodie … or, moved moreslowly … not been out so late … Wait, why are black peopleallowed to drive, anyway? This isn’t a new phenomenon. White people have been giving “advice” to black folks for as long as anyone can remember, telling them how to pick cotton, where to sit on a bus, what neighborhood to live in, when they can vote, and how to wear our pants. Despite centuries of whites’ advice, it seems black people still aren’t listening, and the results are tragic. Now, at last, activist, comedian, and New York Times bestselling author D. L. Hughley offers How Notto Get Shot, an illustrated how-to guide for black people, full of insight from white people, translated by one of the funniest black dudes on the planet. In these pages you will learn how to act, dress, speak, walk, and drive in the safest manner possible. You also will finally understand the white mind. It is a book that can save lives. Or at least laugh through the pain. Black people: Are you ready to not get shot! White people: Do you want to learn how to help the cause? Let’s go!
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062698559
Category : Political Science
Languages : en
Pages : 190
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A GOODREADS CHOICE AWARDS FINALIST "Hilarious yet soul-shaking." —Black Enterprise The fearless comedy legend—one of the “Original Kings of Comedy”—hilariously breaks down the wisdom of white people, advice that has been killing black folks in America for four hundred years and counting. 200 years ago, white people told black folks, “‘I suggest you pick the cotton if you don’t like getting whipped.” Today, it’s “comply with police orders if you don’t want to get shot.” Now comedian/activist D. L. Hughley–one the Original Kings of Comedy–confronts and remixes white people’s “advice” in this “hilarious examination of the current state of race relations in the United States” (Publishers Weekly). In America, a black man is three times more likely to be killed in encounters with police than a white guy. If only he hadcomplied with the cop, he might be alive today, pundits say in the aftermath of the latest shooting of an unarmed black man. Or, Maybe he shouldn’t have worn that hoodie … or, moved moreslowly … not been out so late … Wait, why are black peopleallowed to drive, anyway? This isn’t a new phenomenon. White people have been giving “advice” to black folks for as long as anyone can remember, telling them how to pick cotton, where to sit on a bus, what neighborhood to live in, when they can vote, and how to wear our pants. Despite centuries of whites’ advice, it seems black people still aren’t listening, and the results are tragic. Now, at last, activist, comedian, and New York Times bestselling author D. L. Hughley offers How Notto Get Shot, an illustrated how-to guide for black people, full of insight from white people, translated by one of the funniest black dudes on the planet. In these pages you will learn how to act, dress, speak, walk, and drive in the safest manner possible. You also will finally understand the white mind. It is a book that can save lives. Or at least laugh through the pain. Black people: Are you ready to not get shot! White people: Do you want to learn how to help the cause? Let’s go!
The Giver
Author: Lois Lowry
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
ISBN: 054434068X
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 257
Book Description
The Giver, the 1994 Newbery Medal winner, has become one of the most influential novels of our time. The haunting story centers on twelve-year-old Jonas, who lives in a seemingly ideal, if colorless, world of conformity and contentment. Not until he is given his life assignment as the Receiver of Memory does he begin to understand the dark, complex secrets behind his fragile community. This movie tie-in edition features cover art from the movie and exclusive Q&A with members of the cast, including Taylor Swift, Brenton Thwaites and Cameron Monaghan.
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
ISBN: 054434068X
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 257
Book Description
The Giver, the 1994 Newbery Medal winner, has become one of the most influential novels of our time. The haunting story centers on twelve-year-old Jonas, who lives in a seemingly ideal, if colorless, world of conformity and contentment. Not until he is given his life assignment as the Receiver of Memory does he begin to understand the dark, complex secrets behind his fragile community. This movie tie-in edition features cover art from the movie and exclusive Q&A with members of the cast, including Taylor Swift, Brenton Thwaites and Cameron Monaghan.
The Expectant Father
Author: Armin A. Brott
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780789205384
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 276
Book Description
The expectant father: facts, tips and advice for dads-to-be.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780789205384
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 276
Book Description
The expectant father: facts, tips and advice for dads-to-be.
Rookie Dad
Author: Susan Fox
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743410343
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 276
Book Description
FUN AND EASY EXERCISES AND GAMES FOR DADS AND BABIES IN THEIR FIRST YEAR.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743410343
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 276
Book Description
FUN AND EASY EXERCISES AND GAMES FOR DADS AND BABIES IN THEIR FIRST YEAR.
How to Survive America
Author: D. L. Hughley
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0063072777
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 157
Book Description
The legendary comedian uses his “hilarious yet soul-shaking” humor to confront racism’s unjust impact on the health and wellbeing of Blacks and minorities (Black Enterprise). White people love survival guides, but have you noticed they’re always about ridiculous activities in locations far from home. You know who really needs a survival guide? Black and brown Americans. For surviving their own damn country! Minority populations wake up every day in a battle for their health and safety. Thankfully, legendary activist-comedian D. L. Hughley offers How to Survive America, a fearless satire that exposes racism’s unjust toll on our bodies and minds. Even before COVID-19 disproportionately impacted minority communities, life expectancy for Blacks was a full three years less than for white Americans. The very air we breathe is more polluted, our water is more contaminated, our local food options are toxic, and our jobs are underpaid. Despite the obvious need, the quality of our health care is tragically inadequate. Our communities are statistically less safe than the average, and yet we’re terrorized by the law-enforcement and criminal-justice systems that are supposed to protect us, sending Blacks to prison at five times the rate of whites. Not least, our means of addressing these injustices—voting—is perennially under assault. It’s enough to drive you crazy. Well, guess what? According to Cigna, Blacks are 20 percent more likely to report “psychological distress” yet “50 percent less likely to receive counseling or mental health treatment.” It’s almost like the entire country has been structured with no regard for our welfare. Hmmm. Whether you’re Black, white, brown, or Asian, don’t leave home without arming yourself with How to Survive America!
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0063072777
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 157
Book Description
The legendary comedian uses his “hilarious yet soul-shaking” humor to confront racism’s unjust impact on the health and wellbeing of Blacks and minorities (Black Enterprise). White people love survival guides, but have you noticed they’re always about ridiculous activities in locations far from home. You know who really needs a survival guide? Black and brown Americans. For surviving their own damn country! Minority populations wake up every day in a battle for their health and safety. Thankfully, legendary activist-comedian D. L. Hughley offers How to Survive America, a fearless satire that exposes racism’s unjust toll on our bodies and minds. Even before COVID-19 disproportionately impacted minority communities, life expectancy for Blacks was a full three years less than for white Americans. The very air we breathe is more polluted, our water is more contaminated, our local food options are toxic, and our jobs are underpaid. Despite the obvious need, the quality of our health care is tragically inadequate. Our communities are statistically less safe than the average, and yet we’re terrorized by the law-enforcement and criminal-justice systems that are supposed to protect us, sending Blacks to prison at five times the rate of whites. Not least, our means of addressing these injustices—voting—is perennially under assault. It’s enough to drive you crazy. Well, guess what? According to Cigna, Blacks are 20 percent more likely to report “psychological distress” yet “50 percent less likely to receive counseling or mental health treatment.” It’s almost like the entire country has been structured with no regard for our welfare. Hmmm. Whether you’re Black, white, brown, or Asian, don’t leave home without arming yourself with How to Survive America!
Foster
Author: Claire Keegan
Publisher: Grove Press
ISBN: 0802160158
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 73
Book Description
An international bestseller and one of The Times’ “Top 50 Novels Published in the 21st Century,” Claire Keegan’s piercing contemporary classic Foster is a heartbreaking story of childhood, loss, and love; now released as a standalone book for the first time ever in the US It is a hot summer in rural Ireland. A child is taken by her father to live with relatives on a farm, not knowing when or if she will be brought home again. In the Kinsellas’ house, she finds an affection and warmth she has not known and slowly, in their care, begins to blossom. But there is something unspoken in this new household—where everything is so well tended to—and this summer must soon come to an end. Winner of the prestigious Davy Byrnes Award and published in an abridged version in the New Yorker, this internationally bestselling contemporary classic is now available for the first time in the US in a full, standalone edition. A story of astonishing emotional depth, Foster showcases Claire Keegan’s great talent and secures her reputation as one of our most important storytellers.
Publisher: Grove Press
ISBN: 0802160158
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 73
Book Description
An international bestseller and one of The Times’ “Top 50 Novels Published in the 21st Century,” Claire Keegan’s piercing contemporary classic Foster is a heartbreaking story of childhood, loss, and love; now released as a standalone book for the first time ever in the US It is a hot summer in rural Ireland. A child is taken by her father to live with relatives on a farm, not knowing when or if she will be brought home again. In the Kinsellas’ house, she finds an affection and warmth she has not known and slowly, in their care, begins to blossom. But there is something unspoken in this new household—where everything is so well tended to—and this summer must soon come to an end. Winner of the prestigious Davy Byrnes Award and published in an abridged version in the New Yorker, this internationally bestselling contemporary classic is now available for the first time in the US in a full, standalone edition. A story of astonishing emotional depth, Foster showcases Claire Keegan’s great talent and secures her reputation as one of our most important storytellers.
How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
Author: Jancee Dunn
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 0316267112
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 240
Book Description
"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself" (People): a hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice. Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate Featured in People Picks A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the Year One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the Year How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper? Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child. Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today. On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children. Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 0316267112
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 240
Book Description
"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself" (People): a hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice. Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate Featured in People Picks A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the Year One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the Year How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper? Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child. Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today. On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children. Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.