Author: Mary Crocker Cook
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781611700923
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 190
Book Description
"You are not Codependent simply because your adult child is an addict or alcoholic." All parents of addicted children of any age are terrified, confused, feel out of control, lose sleep, dread the phone calls at 3:00 in the morning. This book is for parents who are "Afraid to Let Go" because they do not know how to set boundaries with their adult children without feeling crippling anxiety, or walling themselves off to make separation possible. You can't "let go." You can't "detach with love." You can't let them "hit bottom." You can't seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child's chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable. "Why can't you just "let go"? " If you are struggling with Codependency, your relationship with your child is not be the only relationship where you experience a loss of self, over-reactivity, adrenalin rushes when you feel "out of control," or behave intrusively or impulsively to "help" in situations even when your assistance has not been requested. If you are Codependent, this is not the first relationship in which you have "over-given" and then felt resentful, or sacrificed yourself to give someone what you decided they "needed" because if you don't, "who will"? "Afraid to Let Go" explores the developmental origins of Codependency that lead to painful behavioral reactivity in response to our addicted adult children. Afraid to Let Go then connects the chronic stress of the chaos of addiction with adrenal system damage, and points you toward concrete behavioral changes you can make to heal regardless of the sobriety of your adult child. "About the author: " Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience working with addicted families over the last 20 years. She is the author of ""Awakening Hope. A Developmental, Behavioral and Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment,"" and coordinates the Alcohol and Drug Studies Program at San Jose City College in San Jose, California.
Afraid to Let Go. for Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics
Author: Mary Crocker Cook
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781611700923
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 190
Book Description
"You are not Codependent simply because your adult child is an addict or alcoholic." All parents of addicted children of any age are terrified, confused, feel out of control, lose sleep, dread the phone calls at 3:00 in the morning. This book is for parents who are "Afraid to Let Go" because they do not know how to set boundaries with their adult children without feeling crippling anxiety, or walling themselves off to make separation possible. You can't "let go." You can't "detach with love." You can't let them "hit bottom." You can't seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child's chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable. "Why can't you just "let go"? " If you are struggling with Codependency, your relationship with your child is not be the only relationship where you experience a loss of self, over-reactivity, adrenalin rushes when you feel "out of control," or behave intrusively or impulsively to "help" in situations even when your assistance has not been requested. If you are Codependent, this is not the first relationship in which you have "over-given" and then felt resentful, or sacrificed yourself to give someone what you decided they "needed" because if you don't, "who will"? "Afraid to Let Go" explores the developmental origins of Codependency that lead to painful behavioral reactivity in response to our addicted adult children. Afraid to Let Go then connects the chronic stress of the chaos of addiction with adrenal system damage, and points you toward concrete behavioral changes you can make to heal regardless of the sobriety of your adult child. "About the author: " Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience working with addicted families over the last 20 years. She is the author of ""Awakening Hope. A Developmental, Behavioral and Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment,"" and coordinates the Alcohol and Drug Studies Program at San Jose City College in San Jose, California.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781611700923
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 190
Book Description
"You are not Codependent simply because your adult child is an addict or alcoholic." All parents of addicted children of any age are terrified, confused, feel out of control, lose sleep, dread the phone calls at 3:00 in the morning. This book is for parents who are "Afraid to Let Go" because they do not know how to set boundaries with their adult children without feeling crippling anxiety, or walling themselves off to make separation possible. You can't "let go." You can't "detach with love." You can't let them "hit bottom." You can't seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child's chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable. "Why can't you just "let go"? " If you are struggling with Codependency, your relationship with your child is not be the only relationship where you experience a loss of self, over-reactivity, adrenalin rushes when you feel "out of control," or behave intrusively or impulsively to "help" in situations even when your assistance has not been requested. If you are Codependent, this is not the first relationship in which you have "over-given" and then felt resentful, or sacrificed yourself to give someone what you decided they "needed" because if you don't, "who will"? "Afraid to Let Go" explores the developmental origins of Codependency that lead to painful behavioral reactivity in response to our addicted adult children. Afraid to Let Go then connects the chronic stress of the chaos of addiction with adrenal system damage, and points you toward concrete behavioral changes you can make to heal regardless of the sobriety of your adult child. "About the author: " Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience working with addicted families over the last 20 years. She is the author of ""Awakening Hope. A Developmental, Behavioral and Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment,"" and coordinates the Alcohol and Drug Studies Program at San Jose City College in San Jose, California.
Parent of an Adult Addict
Author: Arlene Boehnlein-Rice
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
ISBN: 9781499272192
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 84
Book Description
Parent of An Adult Addict offers priceless insight into what one Christian family experienced the night their daughter was found unconscious in their basement from an overdose of heroin. Exploring the questions which most often press parents of addicts, Arlene Boehnlein-Rice shares hard earned wisdom and education on the signs and symptoms a parent needs to know to spot suspected drug abuse by their child, resources for finding support, practical approaches in dealing with your child, and encouragement to know you are not alone on this road. Once Arlene Boehnlein-Rice began to share her story, phone calls and emails began to stream in from other parents asking questions of how to get help, what to do, and what not to do for their heroin addicted adult child. Even though their daughter survived her overdose Arlene Boehnlein-Rice and her husband Keith's story continues by leaving you with a parent's worst nightmare. The powerful tragic ending leads to a family's faith being tested to its very core. The author, a seminary graduate, reveals lessons she has learned along this difficult trail of being a parent of an addict. But rather than turning from her faith or abandoning the God she'd depended upon, Arlene eventually finds a deeper hope and a renewed faith to continue to persevere no matter her child's outcome. As you read this grievous yet compelling account, you will find direction for the next step and encouragement after life's difficulties. Whether you are new to the journey or a seasoned sojourner on this trajectory as a parent of an addict, you will find guidance and inspiration in this heart-wrenching real life story.
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
ISBN: 9781499272192
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 84
Book Description
Parent of An Adult Addict offers priceless insight into what one Christian family experienced the night their daughter was found unconscious in their basement from an overdose of heroin. Exploring the questions which most often press parents of addicts, Arlene Boehnlein-Rice shares hard earned wisdom and education on the signs and symptoms a parent needs to know to spot suspected drug abuse by their child, resources for finding support, practical approaches in dealing with your child, and encouragement to know you are not alone on this road. Once Arlene Boehnlein-Rice began to share her story, phone calls and emails began to stream in from other parents asking questions of how to get help, what to do, and what not to do for their heroin addicted adult child. Even though their daughter survived her overdose Arlene Boehnlein-Rice and her husband Keith's story continues by leaving you with a parent's worst nightmare. The powerful tragic ending leads to a family's faith being tested to its very core. The author, a seminary graduate, reveals lessons she has learned along this difficult trail of being a parent of an addict. But rather than turning from her faith or abandoning the God she'd depended upon, Arlene eventually finds a deeper hope and a renewed faith to continue to persevere no matter her child's outcome. As you read this grievous yet compelling account, you will find direction for the next step and encouragement after life's difficulties. Whether you are new to the journey or a seasoned sojourner on this trajectory as a parent of an addict, you will find guidance and inspiration in this heart-wrenching real life story.
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Author: Janet G. Woititz
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0757393411
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 199
Book Description
In the 1980's, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. In this updated edition of her bestseller she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After decades of working with ACoAs she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0757393411
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 199
Book Description
In the 1980's, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. In this updated edition of her bestseller she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After decades of working with ACoAs she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here.
Liking the Child You Love
Author: Jeffrey Bernstein
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 073821261X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 274
Book Description
How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 073821261X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 274
Book Description
How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"
Beyond Addiction
Author: Jeffrey Foote
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476709475
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. Beyond Addiction eschews the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help their loved ones change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer. Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. Learn how to tap the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is designed not only to help someone change, but to help someone want to change.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476709475
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 336
Book Description
The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. Beyond Addiction eschews the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help their loved ones change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer. Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. Learn how to tap the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is designed not only to help someone change, but to help someone want to change.
Beautiful Boy
Author: David Sheff
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
ISBN: 9780618683352
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 350
Book Description
Sheff's story tells of his teenage son's addiction to meth, in this real-time chronicle of the shocking descent into substance abuse and the family's gradual emergence into hope.
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
ISBN: 9780618683352
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 350
Book Description
Sheff's story tells of his teenage son's addiction to meth, in this real-time chronicle of the shocking descent into substance abuse and the family's gradual emergence into hope.
Perfect Daughters
Author: Robert Ackerman
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0757396305
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women. When this groundbreaking book first appeared over ten years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics—"perfect daughters" —operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of twelve hundred perfect daughters, offering readers an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow. This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for every one who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new readers and every therapist who confronts these issues. Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0757396305
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women. When this groundbreaking book first appeared over ten years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics—"perfect daughters" —operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of twelve hundred perfect daughters, offering readers an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow. This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for every one who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new readers and every therapist who confronts these issues. Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.
It Will Never Happen to Me!
Author: Claudia Black, Ph.D
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0345345940
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 226
Book Description
This "little green book," as it has come to be known to hundreds of thousands of C.O.A.'s and A.C.O.A.'s, is meant to help the reader understand the roles children in alcoholic families adopt, the problems they face in adulthood as a result, and what they can do to break the pattern of destruction.
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0345345940
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 226
Book Description
This "little green book," as it has come to be known to hundreds of thousands of C.O.A.'s and A.C.O.A.'s, is meant to help the reader understand the roles children in alcoholic families adopt, the problems they face in adulthood as a result, and what they can do to break the pattern of destruction.
Addict in the Family
Author: Beverly Conyers
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1616499559
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 208
Book Description
The family recovery classic, Addict in the Family, has been revised and updated to offer parents and other family members even greater support when faced with the reality of a loved one’s addiction. Solid, actionable advice and information about what helps and what doesn’t—and how to care for themselves—make this an indispensable guide. For families of addicts, fear, shame, and confusion over a loved one’s addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. The emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow caused or contributed to their loved one’s addiction—or that they could have done something to prevent it. Addict in the Family is a book about the pain of addiction, but more importantly it is a book of comfort, understanding, and hope for anyone struggling with a loved one’s addiction. As the compelling personal stories reveal, family members do not cause their loved one’s addiction—nor can they control or cure it. What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life more fully. This book helps them do just that—whether the loved one achieves recovery or not.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1616499559
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 208
Book Description
The family recovery classic, Addict in the Family, has been revised and updated to offer parents and other family members even greater support when faced with the reality of a loved one’s addiction. Solid, actionable advice and information about what helps and what doesn’t—and how to care for themselves—make this an indispensable guide. For families of addicts, fear, shame, and confusion over a loved one’s addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. The emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow caused or contributed to their loved one’s addiction—or that they could have done something to prevent it. Addict in the Family is a book about the pain of addiction, but more importantly it is a book of comfort, understanding, and hope for anyone struggling with a loved one’s addiction. As the compelling personal stories reveal, family members do not cause their loved one’s addiction—nor can they control or cure it. What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life more fully. This book helps them do just that—whether the loved one achieves recovery or not.
Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Author: Douglas Bey
Publisher: M. Evans
ISBN: 1590771737
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 240
Book Description
The child of an alcoholic develops patterns of behavior during childhood which carry over into adult life. As children they were taught to cover up the family secret and suppress their feelings. No matter what is going on, as adults, when asked how she or he is doing your partner will likely answer "fine." Distrust, fear of abandonment, and sensitivity to criticism are all major issues for your adult child. Recognizing these patterns and changing the ones that cause problems will help you and your partner enjoy a deeper relationship.
Publisher: M. Evans
ISBN: 1590771737
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 240
Book Description
The child of an alcoholic develops patterns of behavior during childhood which carry over into adult life. As children they were taught to cover up the family secret and suppress their feelings. No matter what is going on, as adults, when asked how she or he is doing your partner will likely answer "fine." Distrust, fear of abandonment, and sensitivity to criticism are all major issues for your adult child. Recognizing these patterns and changing the ones that cause problems will help you and your partner enjoy a deeper relationship.