Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0553447718
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Author: John Gottman, Ph.D.
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0609899538
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 320
Book Description
Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0609899538
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 320
Book Description
Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.
Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 1523504463
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 241
Book Description
Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 1523504463
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 241
Book Description
Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 1400050197
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 290
Book Description
In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track. Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 1400050197
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 290
Book Description
In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track. Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.
Marriage
Author: Gary D. Chapman
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
ISBN: 0830821473
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 64
Book Description
Life is not a flow chart. We weren't meant to master it on our own. The discussion guides in the Transformation of a Man's Heart series put us in conversation with God and with one another to see how God shapes and transforms us in the ordinary experiences of our lives.This guide by Stephen W. Smith and Gary Chapman demystifies marriage for men.
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
ISBN: 0830821473
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 64
Book Description
Life is not a flow chart. We weren't meant to master it on our own. The discussion guides in the Transformation of a Man's Heart series put us in conversation with God and with one another to see how God shapes and transforms us in the ordinary experiences of our lives.This guide by Stephen W. Smith and Gary Chapman demystifies marriage for men.
The Language of Love and Respect
Author: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
ISBN: 141858049X
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? Because most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. Communication expert Dr. Emerson Eggerich says that the problem is couples are sending each other messages in 'code,' but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect. Dr. Eggerichs' best-selling book, Love and Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other. In The Language of Love and Respect, you will discover: The basic communication differences between men and women A biblical perspective with easy-to-use tips and advice A quick review and summary for each chapter This book offers a practical, step-by-step approach for how husbands and wives can learn to speak each other’s distinctly different language -- respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, happy marriage. Previously released as Cracking the Communication Code.
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
ISBN: 141858049X
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 321
Book Description
Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? Because most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. Communication expert Dr. Emerson Eggerich says that the problem is couples are sending each other messages in 'code,' but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect. Dr. Eggerichs' best-selling book, Love and Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other. In The Language of Love and Respect, you will discover: The basic communication differences between men and women A biblical perspective with easy-to-use tips and advice A quick review and summary for each chapter This book offers a practical, step-by-step approach for how husbands and wives can learn to speak each other’s distinctly different language -- respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, happy marriage. Previously released as Cracking the Communication Code.
The Mathematics of Marriage
Author: John M. Gottman
Publisher: MIT Press
ISBN: 0262572303
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 423
Book Description
Divorce rates are at an all-time high. But without a theoretical understanding of the processes related to marital stability and dissolution, it is difficult to design and evaluate new marriage interventions. The Mathematics of Marriage provides the foundation for a scientific theory of marital relations. The book does not rely on metaphors, but develops and applies a mathematical model using difference equations. The work is the fulfillment of the goal to build a mathematical framework for the general system theory of families first suggested by Ludwig Von Bertalanffy in the 1960s.The book also presents a complete introduction to the mathematics involved in theory building and testing, and details the development of experiments and models. In one "marriage experiment," for example, the authors explored the effects of lowering or raising a couple's heart rates. Armed with their mathematical model, they were able to do real experiments to determine which processes were affected by their interventions. Applying ideas such as phase space, null clines, influence functions, inertia, and uninfluenced and influenced stable steady states (attractors), the authors show how other researchers can use the methods to weigh their own data with positive and negative weights. While the focus is on modeling marriage, the techniques can be applied to other types of psychological phenomena as well.
Publisher: MIT Press
ISBN: 0262572303
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 423
Book Description
Divorce rates are at an all-time high. But without a theoretical understanding of the processes related to marital stability and dissolution, it is difficult to design and evaluate new marriage interventions. The Mathematics of Marriage provides the foundation for a scientific theory of marital relations. The book does not rely on metaphors, but develops and applies a mathematical model using difference equations. The work is the fulfillment of the goal to build a mathematical framework for the general system theory of families first suggested by Ludwig Von Bertalanffy in the 1960s.The book also presents a complete introduction to the mathematics involved in theory building and testing, and details the development of experiments and models. In one "marriage experiment," for example, the authors explored the effects of lowering or raising a couple's heart rates. Armed with their mathematical model, they were able to do real experiments to determine which processes were affected by their interventions. Applying ideas such as phase space, null clines, influence functions, inertia, and uninfluenced and influenced stable steady states (attractors), the authors show how other researchers can use the methods to weigh their own data with positive and negative weights. While the focus is on modeling marriage, the techniques can be applied to other types of psychological phenomena as well.
Fierce Marriage
Author: Ryan Frederick
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1493412779
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 221
Book Description
Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1493412779
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 221
Book Description
Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.
Formula for a Successful Marriage
Author: Desiree Andrews
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781640281974
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 62
Book Description
"Formula for a Successful Marriage" is a blueprint to build a solid foundation for your marriage. Discussed are essential elements needed to achieve a harmonious marriage. The formula was conceived by the Holy Spirit and given to Pastor DesireE Andrews to pass on to those seeking to improve or maintain a God-filled, God-ordained, successful marriage. In this book, you will discover the essential ingredients to accomplish just that. The formula, C4H2L, is comprised of four parts C--commitment, communication, companionship, and copulation; two parts H--honesty and hugs; and one part L--love, all of which are necessary for a fruitful marriage. God ordained marriage and intended for it to be a blessed union between one man and one woman. Society today has all but outlawed what constitutes a successful marriage from God's perspective. The implementation of this formula builds back that which was lost. With two things being a given in marriage, God and prayer, the C4H2L formula acts to bind the husband and wife together in marriage. Many marriages fail because one thing or another is neglected and goes lacking for extended periods of time. Society says it's okay to give up on your marriage and go be with someone else, but the Word tells us what God has joined together let no man put asunder. The formula, therefore, aids in keeping things in balance to ensure nothing is overlooked, nothing is neglected, nothing is lacking. It is not a cure-all solution but are the building blocks needed for a successful marriage. If we hold to the biblical principles established from the beginning of time we do well in maintaining and improving the marital relationship. If we do it God's way, we will succeed. This book will help identify that which was from the beginning and guide the reader to a meaningful, healthy, and successful marriage.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781640281974
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 62
Book Description
"Formula for a Successful Marriage" is a blueprint to build a solid foundation for your marriage. Discussed are essential elements needed to achieve a harmonious marriage. The formula was conceived by the Holy Spirit and given to Pastor DesireE Andrews to pass on to those seeking to improve or maintain a God-filled, God-ordained, successful marriage. In this book, you will discover the essential ingredients to accomplish just that. The formula, C4H2L, is comprised of four parts C--commitment, communication, companionship, and copulation; two parts H--honesty and hugs; and one part L--love, all of which are necessary for a fruitful marriage. God ordained marriage and intended for it to be a blessed union between one man and one woman. Society today has all but outlawed what constitutes a successful marriage from God's perspective. The implementation of this formula builds back that which was lost. With two things being a given in marriage, God and prayer, the C4H2L formula acts to bind the husband and wife together in marriage. Many marriages fail because one thing or another is neglected and goes lacking for extended periods of time. Society says it's okay to give up on your marriage and go be with someone else, but the Word tells us what God has joined together let no man put asunder. The formula, therefore, aids in keeping things in balance to ensure nothing is overlooked, nothing is neglected, nothing is lacking. It is not a cure-all solution but are the building blocks needed for a successful marriage. If we hold to the biblical principles established from the beginning of time we do well in maintaining and improving the marital relationship. If we do it God's way, we will succeed. This book will help identify that which was from the beginning and guide the reader to a meaningful, healthy, and successful marriage.
Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage
Author: Myles Munroe
Publisher: Destiny Image Publishers
ISBN: 0768422515
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 544
Book Description
Probably no other dimension of human experience has been pondered, discussed, debated, analyzed, and dreamed about more than the nature of true love. Love is everywhere -- in songs and in books, on televisions and on movie screens. Yet, for all of our thinking and talking, how many of us truly understand love and where can we turn for genuine insight in matters of true love?
Publisher: Destiny Image Publishers
ISBN: 0768422515
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 544
Book Description
Probably no other dimension of human experience has been pondered, discussed, debated, analyzed, and dreamed about more than the nature of true love. Love is everywhere -- in songs and in books, on televisions and on movie screens. Yet, for all of our thinking and talking, how many of us truly understand love and where can we turn for genuine insight in matters of true love?