Author: Neville Goddard
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781514676691
Category : Attitude (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
This book is about getting what you want by relaxing more. More specifically, this book will show you the necessity of relaxing in order to get what you want. The unusual recommendations on the following pages are practical suggestions that you can start using immediately. Whatever you are looking for in life - whether it's more money, improved health, better relationships, more free time, a greater sense of well-being, or a fancier car - you'll often get it faster if you try less. Obviously, this isn't the normal way we think about how to acquire what we want. Our first inclination is always to try harder if we deeply desire something. We think we must work hard, and put in a lot of effort, in order to make our desires come to fruition. But the truth of the matter is that trying hard does not work well for most people. The majority of us who try hard to improve our lives still don't get what we really want. We want to get better things in our life, we try very hard to get them - and our best intentions still manage to get screwed up. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have tried hard and still managed to fail in reaching my goal. It's nothing to be embarrassed about; it's just the truth. Most of the time trying so hard really doesn't get us what we hope it will. So here's a logical question: what would happen if we stopped trying so hard? What if there's an easier way to receive what we want in life? What if we allow ourselves, instead of trying hard, to relax with more consistency? The surprising answer is that by relaxing more we can immediately start to feel wealthy within ourselves. And, from there, an even more stunning development occurs: our new sense of self-wealth miraculously starts to manifest itself in our outer world. In short, we can get more of what we want in life simply by relaxing more. By allowing ourselves to relax, we begin to naturally fall into a state of subtle gratitude and humility. Similarly, relaxation fills us with strong feelings of peaceful resignation, of momentarily not seeking or wanting anything. In such a comfortable state of not trying, ironically, we become the human definition of natural wealth, and are much more capable of receiving what we desire. Relaxing in such a way doesn't have to involve specifically thinking about, or imagining, having lots of money, or living some kind of "luxurious" lifestyle. We can imagine having lots of money if we want to - but deep mental relaxation is more subtle, encompassing and effective than just thinking about money or anything else you may want. We're naturally and profoundly abundant when we're deeply relaxed. If we feel more relaxed our life can literally start taking care of itself, minus all the stressful effort. Attempting to try so hard to meet our goals is largely a cultural affect that we can decide to discard. Relaxation is the opposite of struggle. We don't "try" to relax; we surrender to peaceful feelings of relaxation. This book is to be used pragmatically. Take advantage of it however you like, come back to it as many times as you want, and enjoy the material. Relaxation is something worth knowing about, and it can change your life.
Relax More, Try Less
Author: Neville Goddard
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781514676691
Category : Attitude (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
This book is about getting what you want by relaxing more. More specifically, this book will show you the necessity of relaxing in order to get what you want. The unusual recommendations on the following pages are practical suggestions that you can start using immediately. Whatever you are looking for in life - whether it's more money, improved health, better relationships, more free time, a greater sense of well-being, or a fancier car - you'll often get it faster if you try less. Obviously, this isn't the normal way we think about how to acquire what we want. Our first inclination is always to try harder if we deeply desire something. We think we must work hard, and put in a lot of effort, in order to make our desires come to fruition. But the truth of the matter is that trying hard does not work well for most people. The majority of us who try hard to improve our lives still don't get what we really want. We want to get better things in our life, we try very hard to get them - and our best intentions still manage to get screwed up. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have tried hard and still managed to fail in reaching my goal. It's nothing to be embarrassed about; it's just the truth. Most of the time trying so hard really doesn't get us what we hope it will. So here's a logical question: what would happen if we stopped trying so hard? What if there's an easier way to receive what we want in life? What if we allow ourselves, instead of trying hard, to relax with more consistency? The surprising answer is that by relaxing more we can immediately start to feel wealthy within ourselves. And, from there, an even more stunning development occurs: our new sense of self-wealth miraculously starts to manifest itself in our outer world. In short, we can get more of what we want in life simply by relaxing more. By allowing ourselves to relax, we begin to naturally fall into a state of subtle gratitude and humility. Similarly, relaxation fills us with strong feelings of peaceful resignation, of momentarily not seeking or wanting anything. In such a comfortable state of not trying, ironically, we become the human definition of natural wealth, and are much more capable of receiving what we desire. Relaxing in such a way doesn't have to involve specifically thinking about, or imagining, having lots of money, or living some kind of "luxurious" lifestyle. We can imagine having lots of money if we want to - but deep mental relaxation is more subtle, encompassing and effective than just thinking about money or anything else you may want. We're naturally and profoundly abundant when we're deeply relaxed. If we feel more relaxed our life can literally start taking care of itself, minus all the stressful effort. Attempting to try so hard to meet our goals is largely a cultural affect that we can decide to discard. Relaxation is the opposite of struggle. We don't "try" to relax; we surrender to peaceful feelings of relaxation. This book is to be used pragmatically. Take advantage of it however you like, come back to it as many times as you want, and enjoy the material. Relaxation is something worth knowing about, and it can change your life.
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781514676691
Category : Attitude (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
This book is about getting what you want by relaxing more. More specifically, this book will show you the necessity of relaxing in order to get what you want. The unusual recommendations on the following pages are practical suggestions that you can start using immediately. Whatever you are looking for in life - whether it's more money, improved health, better relationships, more free time, a greater sense of well-being, or a fancier car - you'll often get it faster if you try less. Obviously, this isn't the normal way we think about how to acquire what we want. Our first inclination is always to try harder if we deeply desire something. We think we must work hard, and put in a lot of effort, in order to make our desires come to fruition. But the truth of the matter is that trying hard does not work well for most people. The majority of us who try hard to improve our lives still don't get what we really want. We want to get better things in our life, we try very hard to get them - and our best intentions still manage to get screwed up. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have tried hard and still managed to fail in reaching my goal. It's nothing to be embarrassed about; it's just the truth. Most of the time trying so hard really doesn't get us what we hope it will. So here's a logical question: what would happen if we stopped trying so hard? What if there's an easier way to receive what we want in life? What if we allow ourselves, instead of trying hard, to relax with more consistency? The surprising answer is that by relaxing more we can immediately start to feel wealthy within ourselves. And, from there, an even more stunning development occurs: our new sense of self-wealth miraculously starts to manifest itself in our outer world. In short, we can get more of what we want in life simply by relaxing more. By allowing ourselves to relax, we begin to naturally fall into a state of subtle gratitude and humility. Similarly, relaxation fills us with strong feelings of peaceful resignation, of momentarily not seeking or wanting anything. In such a comfortable state of not trying, ironically, we become the human definition of natural wealth, and are much more capable of receiving what we desire. Relaxing in such a way doesn't have to involve specifically thinking about, or imagining, having lots of money, or living some kind of "luxurious" lifestyle. We can imagine having lots of money if we want to - but deep mental relaxation is more subtle, encompassing and effective than just thinking about money or anything else you may want. We're naturally and profoundly abundant when we're deeply relaxed. If we feel more relaxed our life can literally start taking care of itself, minus all the stressful effort. Attempting to try so hard to meet our goals is largely a cultural affect that we can decide to discard. Relaxation is the opposite of struggle. We don't "try" to relax; we surrender to peaceful feelings of relaxation. This book is to be used pragmatically. Take advantage of it however you like, come back to it as many times as you want, and enjoy the material. Relaxation is something worth knowing about, and it can change your life.
Take Time to Relax!
Author: Nancy Carlson
Publisher: Carolrhoda Books
ISBN: 0761389644
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 36
Book Description
Tina the beaver and her family constantly rush off in different directions, until a storm keeps them snowbound at home.
Publisher: Carolrhoda Books
ISBN: 0761389644
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 36
Book Description
Tina the beaver and her family constantly rush off in different directions, until a storm keeps them snowbound at home.
Manifestation Through Relaxation
Author: Neville Goddard
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781523631827
Category : Relaxation
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
This book is going to show you how to achieve much more of what you want in life - by trying less. Most of us don't think personal, financial and spiritual success starts with relaxation. But we're wrong. You're about to find out that increased relaxation doesn't just lead to better mental and physical health, but other tangible forms of prosperity. Feeling stressed out and stuck in the same aggravating rut over and over again? Then this powerfully unconventional advice is for you. Inside you'll discover how to: *Work less to achieve more *Take advantage of simple activities to easily and consistently reduce your stress *Raise your level of relaxation to facilitate receiving what you want *Use generosity and self-compassion to become more productive *Attain a peaceful work-life balance *Utilize stress reduction tools to reach specific goals quickly and with far less effort Don't delay finding out about this unique, life-changing information. Scroll up to buy your copy today!
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781523631827
Category : Relaxation
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
This book is going to show you how to achieve much more of what you want in life - by trying less. Most of us don't think personal, financial and spiritual success starts with relaxation. But we're wrong. You're about to find out that increased relaxation doesn't just lead to better mental and physical health, but other tangible forms of prosperity. Feeling stressed out and stuck in the same aggravating rut over and over again? Then this powerfully unconventional advice is for you. Inside you'll discover how to: *Work less to achieve more *Take advantage of simple activities to easily and consistently reduce your stress *Raise your level of relaxation to facilitate receiving what you want *Use generosity and self-compassion to become more productive *Attain a peaceful work-life balance *Utilize stress reduction tools to reach specific goals quickly and with far less effort Don't delay finding out about this unique, life-changing information. Scroll up to buy your copy today!
My Year of Rest and Relaxation
Author: Ottessa Moshfegh
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0525522123
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 189
Book Description
From one of our boldest, most celebrated new literary voices, a novel about a young woman's efforts to duck the ills of the world by embarking on an extended hibernation with the help of one of the worst psychiatrists in the annals of literature and the battery of medicines she prescribes Our narrator should be happy, shouldn't she? She's young, thin, pretty, a recent Columbia graduate, works an easy job at a hip art gallery, lives in an apartment on the Upper East Side of Manhattan paid for, like the rest of her needs, by her inheritance. But there is a dark and vacuous hole in her heart, and it isn't just the loss of her parents, or the way her Wall Street boyfriend treats her, or her sadomasochistic relationship with her best friend, Reva. It's the year 2000 in a city aglitter with wealth and possibility; what could be so terribly wrong? My Year of Rest and Relaxation is a powerful answer to that question. Through the story of a year spent under the influence of a truly mad combination of drugs designed to heal our heroine from her alienation from this world, Moshfegh shows us how reasonable, even necessary, alienation can be. Both tender and blackly funny, merciless and compassionate, it is a showcase for the gifts of one of our major writers working at the height of her powers.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0525522123
Category : Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 189
Book Description
From one of our boldest, most celebrated new literary voices, a novel about a young woman's efforts to duck the ills of the world by embarking on an extended hibernation with the help of one of the worst psychiatrists in the annals of literature and the battery of medicines she prescribes Our narrator should be happy, shouldn't she? She's young, thin, pretty, a recent Columbia graduate, works an easy job at a hip art gallery, lives in an apartment on the Upper East Side of Manhattan paid for, like the rest of her needs, by her inheritance. But there is a dark and vacuous hole in her heart, and it isn't just the loss of her parents, or the way her Wall Street boyfriend treats her, or her sadomasochistic relationship with her best friend, Reva. It's the year 2000 in a city aglitter with wealth and possibility; what could be so terribly wrong? My Year of Rest and Relaxation is a powerful answer to that question. Through the story of a year spent under the influence of a truly mad combination of drugs designed to heal our heroine from her alienation from this world, Moshfegh shows us how reasonable, even necessary, alienation can be. Both tender and blackly funny, merciless and compassionate, it is a showcase for the gifts of one of our major writers working at the height of her powers.
The Wealth Mindset
Author: Neville Goddard
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781539612803
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
"Neville may be the positive-thinking movement's most radical and subtly influential voice." - Mitch Horowitz, bestselling author of One Simple Idea DISCOVER HOW THOUGHT EFFECTS SUCCESS... Taught by one of the great self-improvement teachers of the 20th century, The Wealth Mindset is an extraordinary guide about how to achieve success by transforming your mental attitude. Clear and provocative, this book will reveal to you a fascinating new way to wealth. Get your copy now.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781539612803
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
"Neville may be the positive-thinking movement's most radical and subtly influential voice." - Mitch Horowitz, bestselling author of One Simple Idea DISCOVER HOW THOUGHT EFFECTS SUCCESS... Taught by one of the great self-improvement teachers of the 20th century, The Wealth Mindset is an extraordinary guide about how to achieve success by transforming your mental attitude. Clear and provocative, this book will reveal to you a fascinating new way to wealth. Get your copy now.
Learn to Relax
Author: Mike George
Publisher: Chronicle Books
ISBN: 9780811819084
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 168
Book Description
We all need to relax. If only it were as easy as it sounds! Now, with this beautifully illustrated and practical volume, anyone can learn to let go. Offering almost 30 ingenious and easy-to-do exercises tailor-made for busy people, plus original illustrations to aid visualization and a friendly text that's low on jargon, Learn to Relax presents effective ways to ease tension at work, at home, or on the road. Stress counselor Mike George suggests simple techniques for breathing, massage, anxiety control, time management, sleep enrichment, detachment, and meditation, all designed to calm the mind. Drawn from both Eastern and Western traditions, this book's easy yet highly effective strategies reveal how we can put problems in perspective, deepen self-awareness, and celebrate the positive in life. Practical and inspirational in the style of Teach Yourself to Dream, Learn to Relax is the only accessible illustrated relaxation book on the market -- and an indispensable guide for anyone who wants to rediscover the essential art of relaxation.
Publisher: Chronicle Books
ISBN: 9780811819084
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 168
Book Description
We all need to relax. If only it were as easy as it sounds! Now, with this beautifully illustrated and practical volume, anyone can learn to let go. Offering almost 30 ingenious and easy-to-do exercises tailor-made for busy people, plus original illustrations to aid visualization and a friendly text that's low on jargon, Learn to Relax presents effective ways to ease tension at work, at home, or on the road. Stress counselor Mike George suggests simple techniques for breathing, massage, anxiety control, time management, sleep enrichment, detachment, and meditation, all designed to calm the mind. Drawn from both Eastern and Western traditions, this book's easy yet highly effective strategies reveal how we can put problems in perspective, deepen self-awareness, and celebrate the positive in life. Practical and inspirational in the style of Teach Yourself to Dream, Learn to Relax is the only accessible illustrated relaxation book on the market -- and an indispensable guide for anyone who wants to rediscover the essential art of relaxation.
Rest
Author: Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
Publisher: Basic Books
ISBN: 046509659X
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 322
Book Description
"Rest is such a valuable book. If work is our national religion, Pang is the philosopher reintegrating our bifurcated selves."---Arianna Huffington, New York Times Book Review Overwork is the new normal. Rest is something to do when the important things are done—but they are never done. Looking at different forms of rest, from sleep to vacation, Silicon Valley futurist and business consultant Alex Soojung-Kim Pang dispels the myth that the harder we work the better the outcome. He combines rigorous scientific research with a rich array of examples of writers, painters, and thinkers—from Darwin to Stephen King—to challenge our tendency to see work and relaxation as antithetical. "Deliberate rest," as Pang calls it, is the true key to productivity, and will give us more energy, sharper ideas, and a better life. Rest offers a roadmap to rediscovering the importance of rest in our lives, and a convincing argument that we need to relax more if we actually want to get more done.
Publisher: Basic Books
ISBN: 046509659X
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 322
Book Description
"Rest is such a valuable book. If work is our national religion, Pang is the philosopher reintegrating our bifurcated selves."---Arianna Huffington, New York Times Book Review Overwork is the new normal. Rest is something to do when the important things are done—but they are never done. Looking at different forms of rest, from sleep to vacation, Silicon Valley futurist and business consultant Alex Soojung-Kim Pang dispels the myth that the harder we work the better the outcome. He combines rigorous scientific research with a rich array of examples of writers, painters, and thinkers—from Darwin to Stephen King—to challenge our tendency to see work and relaxation as antithetical. "Deliberate rest," as Pang calls it, is the true key to productivity, and will give us more energy, sharper ideas, and a better life. Rest offers a roadmap to rediscovering the importance of rest in our lives, and a convincing argument that we need to relax more if we actually want to get more done.
Relax, We're All Just Making This Stuff Up!
Author: Amy Lisewksi
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780997703016
Category : Performing Arts
Languages : en
Pages : 138
Book Description
Gives readers the tools to plan less and play more in their everyday lives using the principles of improvisational comedy. Written for non-performers, it features true stories of people whose lives have been improved by practicing improv. Includes simple games to help build confidence and adaptability. Ideal for public and high school libraries.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780997703016
Category : Performing Arts
Languages : en
Pages : 138
Book Description
Gives readers the tools to plan less and play more in their everyday lives using the principles of improvisational comedy. Written for non-performers, it features true stories of people whose lives have been improved by practicing improv. Includes simple games to help build confidence and adaptability. Ideal for public and high school libraries.
Relax Into Wealth
Author: Alan Cohen
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101099771
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 244
Book Description
In Relax into Wealth, master storyteller Alan Cohen demonstratesthe intrinsic link between passion, authenticity, andprosperity. He shows that nothing pays like . . . being yourself. This popular national speaker and bestselling writer delivershis prosperity principles in fifty-two true stories of successfulpeople he has encountered, including celebrities, Midas-touchentrepreneurs, shuttle-bus drivers, wide-eyed children, and evena stripper. Then, in his unique way, Cohen highlights the lessonwithin each parable and expands upon it, enabling readers toapply the principle to their own lives. Cohen uses the story, the most cogent teaching device inhistory, to give readers an entertaining and accessible model.Relax into Wealth makes use of personal (and sometimes quiteintimate) tales to capture the reader’s attention and impart thewisdom found in the experience. Each of its fifty-two anecdotesends with a personal affirmation to help readers remember thelesson and carry it into real life. Most popular books on success in business or personalfinance are formula-driven, focusing on techniques to makemore money, climb the corporate ladder, or outpower competition.Relax into Wealth is character-driven, shining the spotlighton the kind of heart, faith, and vision required to overcome fear,peer pressure, limiting beliefs, or a history of failure. The book is about real people—in whom readers canrecognize themselves—featuring moneymakers who have beentrue to their passion and successful in their chosen domain.Every reader will see his own financial hopes—and how toachieve them—in the lives of the various characters.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101099771
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 244
Book Description
In Relax into Wealth, master storyteller Alan Cohen demonstratesthe intrinsic link between passion, authenticity, andprosperity. He shows that nothing pays like . . . being yourself. This popular national speaker and bestselling writer delivershis prosperity principles in fifty-two true stories of successfulpeople he has encountered, including celebrities, Midas-touchentrepreneurs, shuttle-bus drivers, wide-eyed children, and evena stripper. Then, in his unique way, Cohen highlights the lessonwithin each parable and expands upon it, enabling readers toapply the principle to their own lives. Cohen uses the story, the most cogent teaching device inhistory, to give readers an entertaining and accessible model.Relax into Wealth makes use of personal (and sometimes quiteintimate) tales to capture the reader’s attention and impart thewisdom found in the experience. Each of its fifty-two anecdotesends with a personal affirmation to help readers remember thelesson and carry it into real life. Most popular books on success in business or personalfinance are formula-driven, focusing on techniques to makemore money, climb the corporate ladder, or outpower competition.Relax into Wealth is character-driven, shining the spotlighton the kind of heart, faith, and vision required to overcome fear,peer pressure, limiting beliefs, or a history of failure. The book is about real people—in whom readers canrecognize themselves—featuring moneymakers who have beentrue to their passion and successful in their chosen domain.Every reader will see his own financial hopes—and how toachieve them—in the lives of the various characters.
Mindful Manifestation
Author: Neville Goddard
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 9781516902590
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 56
Book Description
What is mindfulness, really? Honestly, I don't know the answer to that question. And I doubt you do, either. When Jon Kabat-Zinn introduced the term "mindfulness" to the general public a few decades ago, he was attempting to incorporate Buddhist meditation practices with modern medical psychology and medicine. Kabat-Zinn's ideas were intriguing and effective, especially given the rather conservative setting in which he was applying his advice. But we're a long way from Full Catastrophe Living. And the mindfulness movement is far removed from Kabat-Zinn's original ideas on the subject. Frankly, when most people use the term "mindfulness" today, it means next to nothing. Here's the unglamorous truth about the mindfulness movement that most of us don't want to acknowledge: if we objectively watch our thoughts - and don't emotionally intercede with them - we'll probably observe ourselves having the same cycles of good thoughts and bad thoughts, repeating themselves again and again. If we meditate in such a way - without attempting to refine our thoughts, and instead simply letting them "be" - we'll often notice the same emotional cycles of our thinking recurring over the course of many months, and sometimes even years. Objective, nonjudgmental meditation makes us quite aware of this. Our specific thoughts will change - but we'll still usually have the same up and down emotional cycles within our thinking, regardless of the specific thoughts. If this sounds somewhat unappealing, boring and unproductive...that's because it usually is. I spent over a decade of my life meditating in such a way, and even once spent a year living at a Buddhist center to focus on meditation intensively. I put a lot of time into trying to be mindful. And all this effort did not make me any more mindful. Now, I'm not necessarily saying anything bad about meditation, or even practicing mindfulness in such a way. But I am saying that if you expect to get anything from it, you're definitely choosing the wrong path. As the wonderful Zen monk Kodo Sawaki pointedly said, "Meditation is about loss." Most of us are sick of loss, and losing. I know I am. We want to actually win sometimes. We've experienced enough loss already. We're totally disinterested in it; we've had enough lessons in losing already in life, thank you very much. Most of us meditators are so used to getting less, and we're quietly desperate to find out a way to get more in our life instead - even if we say we aren't. It's not that we're greedy; the problem actually might be that we're suffering by pretending to be too humble. We mistakenly think that's what Buddhism and mindfulness is all about - mindfully living through suffering. So we inadvertently suffer some more, and make it even tougher on ourselves. This happens in part because we have trouble admitting what we actually want in life. But we shouldn't feel defeated and dissolute like this. And we can't just sit there and expect for anything to change after all this time when nothing's changed. It won't. We need a new approach. So I suggest we think about what we really want in life. Once we start having an idea about what we actually want in life then we can start finding it within ourselves. This is the kind of approach to mindfulness I can fully endorse. Decide what you would like in your life, and then start to feel it within yourself. This might sound confusing, but bear with me. Everything will soon get clearer. First remember this: mindfulness shouldn't be about loss; it should be about gain. The purpose of mindfulness should be to attain what you desire. Otherwise you're just wasting your time. This guide is going to show you how to stop wasting your time, and actually start getting what you want in life.
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 9781516902590
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 56
Book Description
What is mindfulness, really? Honestly, I don't know the answer to that question. And I doubt you do, either. When Jon Kabat-Zinn introduced the term "mindfulness" to the general public a few decades ago, he was attempting to incorporate Buddhist meditation practices with modern medical psychology and medicine. Kabat-Zinn's ideas were intriguing and effective, especially given the rather conservative setting in which he was applying his advice. But we're a long way from Full Catastrophe Living. And the mindfulness movement is far removed from Kabat-Zinn's original ideas on the subject. Frankly, when most people use the term "mindfulness" today, it means next to nothing. Here's the unglamorous truth about the mindfulness movement that most of us don't want to acknowledge: if we objectively watch our thoughts - and don't emotionally intercede with them - we'll probably observe ourselves having the same cycles of good thoughts and bad thoughts, repeating themselves again and again. If we meditate in such a way - without attempting to refine our thoughts, and instead simply letting them "be" - we'll often notice the same emotional cycles of our thinking recurring over the course of many months, and sometimes even years. Objective, nonjudgmental meditation makes us quite aware of this. Our specific thoughts will change - but we'll still usually have the same up and down emotional cycles within our thinking, regardless of the specific thoughts. If this sounds somewhat unappealing, boring and unproductive...that's because it usually is. I spent over a decade of my life meditating in such a way, and even once spent a year living at a Buddhist center to focus on meditation intensively. I put a lot of time into trying to be mindful. And all this effort did not make me any more mindful. Now, I'm not necessarily saying anything bad about meditation, or even practicing mindfulness in such a way. But I am saying that if you expect to get anything from it, you're definitely choosing the wrong path. As the wonderful Zen monk Kodo Sawaki pointedly said, "Meditation is about loss." Most of us are sick of loss, and losing. I know I am. We want to actually win sometimes. We've experienced enough loss already. We're totally disinterested in it; we've had enough lessons in losing already in life, thank you very much. Most of us meditators are so used to getting less, and we're quietly desperate to find out a way to get more in our life instead - even if we say we aren't. It's not that we're greedy; the problem actually might be that we're suffering by pretending to be too humble. We mistakenly think that's what Buddhism and mindfulness is all about - mindfully living through suffering. So we inadvertently suffer some more, and make it even tougher on ourselves. This happens in part because we have trouble admitting what we actually want in life. But we shouldn't feel defeated and dissolute like this. And we can't just sit there and expect for anything to change after all this time when nothing's changed. It won't. We need a new approach. So I suggest we think about what we really want in life. Once we start having an idea about what we actually want in life then we can start finding it within ourselves. This is the kind of approach to mindfulness I can fully endorse. Decide what you would like in your life, and then start to feel it within yourself. This might sound confusing, but bear with me. Everything will soon get clearer. First remember this: mindfulness shouldn't be about loss; it should be about gain. The purpose of mindfulness should be to attain what you desire. Otherwise you're just wasting your time. This guide is going to show you how to stop wasting your time, and actually start getting what you want in life.