Author: Barry Gold
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781520325316
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 123
Book Description
In Gray Divorce Stories, 18 men and women who've gone through a divorce over age 50 talk about what they experienced in their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries. Telling their own stories in their own words, each describes the good times and bad, their successes and failures, their regrets and their desires. And because they're anonymous, they do it with complete candor.Hundreds of thousands of Americans will go through a Gray Divorce this year. And they all have questions like, Are my feelings normal? What can I do to recover? What will my future be like? And so many more... The personal stories in this book can help answer those questions, as well as provide tips and guidance to make the divorce and recovery process go more smoothly. And, because so many of the interviewees have come through their divorces so well, the book can also offer inspiration and hope. In addition to those going through a Gray Divorce, common sense suggests plenty of long-married Over 50's must be considering it. Each is seeking to answer the one big question: Will I be better off if I get out? The stories in this book can provide that Divorce Curious (or "Di-Curious") reader a tremendous amount of useful information for reaching that decision.Among those who offer their stories: * Donna - She felt like a single mother during periods of her two decade marriage, knowing for years she wanted out. Finally she made the move, even though she was scared about struggling financially. Her advice to other women: You can do it. * Wendy - A successful corporate type, she was the breadwinner throughout her marriage. Though she did everything possible to support her struggling husband, she felt abandoned by him in every possible way. She was prepared to stick it out until her youngest left home, but then she met a man at a business conference... * Roger - He endured a 26 year marriage with a demanding, verbally abusive wife. The financial crash of '08 delayed his departure, but when real estate values bounced back, he got out. Roger expected to be emotionally wracked by the divorce; instead, he's thrilled to be in his apartment, golfing when he wants, with no yard work to do. * Gayla - Her long marriage was marked by poor communication and sex that felt like a chore. Finally divorced once her youngest graduated college, she spent a year working on herself before beginning to date again. Once she did, she discovered a world of sexuality unlike anything she'd ever imagined before. Any divorce is difficult and painful, but a Gray Divorce offers its own set of particular challenges. Anyone going through a divorce over 50, or considering one, can benefit from reading the first-hand experiences offered by Gray Divorce Stories.
Gray Divorce Stories
Author: Barry Gold
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781520325316
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 123
Book Description
In Gray Divorce Stories, 18 men and women who've gone through a divorce over age 50 talk about what they experienced in their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries. Telling their own stories in their own words, each describes the good times and bad, their successes and failures, their regrets and their desires. And because they're anonymous, they do it with complete candor.Hundreds of thousands of Americans will go through a Gray Divorce this year. And they all have questions like, Are my feelings normal? What can I do to recover? What will my future be like? And so many more... The personal stories in this book can help answer those questions, as well as provide tips and guidance to make the divorce and recovery process go more smoothly. And, because so many of the interviewees have come through their divorces so well, the book can also offer inspiration and hope. In addition to those going through a Gray Divorce, common sense suggests plenty of long-married Over 50's must be considering it. Each is seeking to answer the one big question: Will I be better off if I get out? The stories in this book can provide that Divorce Curious (or "Di-Curious") reader a tremendous amount of useful information for reaching that decision.Among those who offer their stories: * Donna - She felt like a single mother during periods of her two decade marriage, knowing for years she wanted out. Finally she made the move, even though she was scared about struggling financially. Her advice to other women: You can do it. * Wendy - A successful corporate type, she was the breadwinner throughout her marriage. Though she did everything possible to support her struggling husband, she felt abandoned by him in every possible way. She was prepared to stick it out until her youngest left home, but then she met a man at a business conference... * Roger - He endured a 26 year marriage with a demanding, verbally abusive wife. The financial crash of '08 delayed his departure, but when real estate values bounced back, he got out. Roger expected to be emotionally wracked by the divorce; instead, he's thrilled to be in his apartment, golfing when he wants, with no yard work to do. * Gayla - Her long marriage was marked by poor communication and sex that felt like a chore. Finally divorced once her youngest graduated college, she spent a year working on herself before beginning to date again. Once she did, she discovered a world of sexuality unlike anything she'd ever imagined before. Any divorce is difficult and painful, but a Gray Divorce offers its own set of particular challenges. Anyone going through a divorce over 50, or considering one, can benefit from reading the first-hand experiences offered by Gray Divorce Stories.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781520325316
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 123
Book Description
In Gray Divorce Stories, 18 men and women who've gone through a divorce over age 50 talk about what they experienced in their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries. Telling their own stories in their own words, each describes the good times and bad, their successes and failures, their regrets and their desires. And because they're anonymous, they do it with complete candor.Hundreds of thousands of Americans will go through a Gray Divorce this year. And they all have questions like, Are my feelings normal? What can I do to recover? What will my future be like? And so many more... The personal stories in this book can help answer those questions, as well as provide tips and guidance to make the divorce and recovery process go more smoothly. And, because so many of the interviewees have come through their divorces so well, the book can also offer inspiration and hope. In addition to those going through a Gray Divorce, common sense suggests plenty of long-married Over 50's must be considering it. Each is seeking to answer the one big question: Will I be better off if I get out? The stories in this book can provide that Divorce Curious (or "Di-Curious") reader a tremendous amount of useful information for reaching that decision.Among those who offer their stories: * Donna - She felt like a single mother during periods of her two decade marriage, knowing for years she wanted out. Finally she made the move, even though she was scared about struggling financially. Her advice to other women: You can do it. * Wendy - A successful corporate type, she was the breadwinner throughout her marriage. Though she did everything possible to support her struggling husband, she felt abandoned by him in every possible way. She was prepared to stick it out until her youngest left home, but then she met a man at a business conference... * Roger - He endured a 26 year marriage with a demanding, verbally abusive wife. The financial crash of '08 delayed his departure, but when real estate values bounced back, he got out. Roger expected to be emotionally wracked by the divorce; instead, he's thrilled to be in his apartment, golfing when he wants, with no yard work to do. * Gayla - Her long marriage was marked by poor communication and sex that felt like a chore. Finally divorced once her youngest graduated college, she spent a year working on herself before beginning to date again. Once she did, she discovered a world of sexuality unlike anything she'd ever imagined before. Any divorce is difficult and painful, but a Gray Divorce offers its own set of particular challenges. Anyone going through a divorce over 50, or considering one, can benefit from reading the first-hand experiences offered by Gray Divorce Stories.
Home Will Never Be the Same Again
Author: Carol R. Hughes
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1538135310
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 286
Book Description
Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life, but in these pages they will find comfort and understanding for the many feelings, frustrations, and challenges they face. For more than two decades, a silent revolution has been occurring and creating a seismic shift in the American family and families in other countries. It has been unfolding without much comment, and its effects are being felt across three to four generations: more couples are divorcing later in life. Called the “gray divorce revolution,” the cultural phenomenon describes couples who divorce after the age of 50. Overlooked in the issues that affect couples divorcing later in in life are the adult children of divorcing parents. Their voices open this book, and they are the voices of men and women, 18 to 50 years old. Some of them are single; some are married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. In Home Will Never Be the Same: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg share their deep understanding gained during the innumerable hours they have spent with these women and men in their clinical practices. The result is a valuable resource for these too often forgotten adult children, many of whom find that, whenever they express their feelings and experiences, the most important people in their lives frequently ignore and dismiss them. As the divorce rate for older adults soars, so too does the number of adult children who are experiencing parental divorce. Yet, these adult children frequently say that they are the only ones who are aware of what they are going through, no one understands what they are experiencing, and they feel painfully alone.
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1538135310
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 286
Book Description
Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life, but in these pages they will find comfort and understanding for the many feelings, frustrations, and challenges they face. For more than two decades, a silent revolution has been occurring and creating a seismic shift in the American family and families in other countries. It has been unfolding without much comment, and its effects are being felt across three to four generations: more couples are divorcing later in life. Called the “gray divorce revolution,” the cultural phenomenon describes couples who divorce after the age of 50. Overlooked in the issues that affect couples divorcing later in in life are the adult children of divorcing parents. Their voices open this book, and they are the voices of men and women, 18 to 50 years old. Some of them are single; some are married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. In Home Will Never Be the Same: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg share their deep understanding gained during the innumerable hours they have spent with these women and men in their clinical practices. The result is a valuable resource for these too often forgotten adult children, many of whom find that, whenever they express their feelings and experiences, the most important people in their lives frequently ignore and dismiss them. As the divorce rate for older adults soars, so too does the number of adult children who are experiencing parental divorce. Yet, these adult children frequently say that they are the only ones who are aware of what they are going through, no one understands what they are experiencing, and they feel painfully alone.
Gray Divorce
Author: Jocelyn Elise Crowley
Publisher: Univ of California Press
ISBN: 0520968115
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 218
Book Description
After 20, 30, or even 40 years of marriage, countless vacations, raising well-adjusted children, and sharing property and finances, what could go wrong? Gray Divorce is a provocative look at the rising rate of marital splits after the age of 50. Renowned author and researcher Jocelyn Elise Crowley uncovers the reasons why men and women divorce—and the penalties and benefits that they receive for their choices. From the outside, many may ask why couples in mid-life and readying for retirement choose to make a drastic change in their marital status. Yet, nearly one out of every four divorces in the United States is “gray.” With a deft eye, Crowley analyzes the differing experiences of women and men in this mid-life transition—the seismic shift in individual priorities, the role of increased life expectancy, and how women are affected economically while men are affected socially. With a realistic yet passionate voice, Crowley shares the personal positive outlooks and the necessary supportive public policies that must be enacted to best help the newly divorced. Engaging and instructive, Gray Divorce is a must-read for anyone interested in contemporary American culture.
Publisher: Univ of California Press
ISBN: 0520968115
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 218
Book Description
After 20, 30, or even 40 years of marriage, countless vacations, raising well-adjusted children, and sharing property and finances, what could go wrong? Gray Divorce is a provocative look at the rising rate of marital splits after the age of 50. Renowned author and researcher Jocelyn Elise Crowley uncovers the reasons why men and women divorce—and the penalties and benefits that they receive for their choices. From the outside, many may ask why couples in mid-life and readying for retirement choose to make a drastic change in their marital status. Yet, nearly one out of every four divorces in the United States is “gray.” With a deft eye, Crowley analyzes the differing experiences of women and men in this mid-life transition—the seismic shift in individual priorities, the role of increased life expectancy, and how women are affected economically while men are affected socially. With a realistic yet passionate voice, Crowley shares the personal positive outlooks and the necessary supportive public policies that must be enacted to best help the newly divorced. Engaging and instructive, Gray Divorce is a must-read for anyone interested in contemporary American culture.
The Life-Saving Divorce
Author: Gretchen Baskerville
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781734374704
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In "The Life-Saving Divorce" You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781734374704
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In "The Life-Saving Divorce" You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books.
Divorce in Europe
Author: Dimitri Mortelmans
Publisher: Springer Nature
ISBN: 3030258386
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This open access book collects the major discussions in divorce research in Europe. It starts with an understanding of divorce trends. Why was divorce increasing so rapidly throughout the US and Europe and do we see signs of a turn? Do cohabitation breakups influence divorce trends or is there a renewed stability on the partner market? In terms of divorce risks, the book contains new insights on Eastern European countries. These post socialist countries have evolved dramatically since the fall of the Wall and at present they show the highest divorce figures in Europe. Also the influence of gender, and more specifically women’s education as a risk in divorce is examined cross nationally. The book also provides explanations for the negative gradient in female education effects on divorce. It devotes three separate parts to new insights in the post-divorce effects of the life course event by among others looking at consequences for adults and children but also taking the larger family network into account. As such the book is of interest to demographers, sociologists, psychologists, family therapists, NGOs, and politicians. “This wide-ranging volume details important trends in divorce in Europe that hold implications for understanding family dissolution causes and consequences throughout the world. Highly recommended for researchers and students everywhere.”
Publisher: Springer Nature
ISBN: 3030258386
Category : Social Science
Languages : en
Pages : 369
Book Description
This open access book collects the major discussions in divorce research in Europe. It starts with an understanding of divorce trends. Why was divorce increasing so rapidly throughout the US and Europe and do we see signs of a turn? Do cohabitation breakups influence divorce trends or is there a renewed stability on the partner market? In terms of divorce risks, the book contains new insights on Eastern European countries. These post socialist countries have evolved dramatically since the fall of the Wall and at present they show the highest divorce figures in Europe. Also the influence of gender, and more specifically women’s education as a risk in divorce is examined cross nationally. The book also provides explanations for the negative gradient in female education effects on divorce. It devotes three separate parts to new insights in the post-divorce effects of the life course event by among others looking at consequences for adults and children but also taking the larger family network into account. As such the book is of interest to demographers, sociologists, psychologists, family therapists, NGOs, and politicians. “This wide-ranging volume details important trends in divorce in Europe that hold implications for understanding family dissolution causes and consequences throughout the world. Highly recommended for researchers and students everywhere.”
Our Happy Divorce
Author: Benjamin Heldfond
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781631779978
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 184
Book Description
"From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life eventsƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Ben and Nikki had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever afterƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781631779978
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 184
Book Description
"From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life eventsƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Ben and Nikki had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever afterƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives.
A Cup of Comfort for Divorced Women
Author: Colleen Sell
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1605503940
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 242
Book Description
Divorce in the twenty-first century should come with an instruction manual, a release valve, and a support system. This book will serve as all three, in the form of comforting, insightful, and inspirational stories about surviving and thriving during and after divorce. In the bestselling tradition of the Cup of Comfort series, this volume will make divorcees laugh and cry as they commiserate about the universal issues of divorce: ex-husbands, ex-houses, alimony, child support, new holiday traditions, and much more. A shoulder to cry on and a friend to laugh with all rolled into one perfect gift book, this collection will be the best friend for every woman who picks it up.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1605503940
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 242
Book Description
Divorce in the twenty-first century should come with an instruction manual, a release valve, and a support system. This book will serve as all three, in the form of comforting, insightful, and inspirational stories about surviving and thriving during and after divorce. In the bestselling tradition of the Cup of Comfort series, this volume will make divorcees laugh and cry as they commiserate about the universal issues of divorce: ex-husbands, ex-houses, alimony, child support, new holiday traditions, and much more. A shoulder to cry on and a friend to laugh with all rolled into one perfect gift book, this collection will be the best friend for every woman who picks it up.
Adult Children of Divorce
Author: Elizabeth Thayer
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608825957
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 202
Book Description
If your parents divorced when you were young, you were probably affected by the breakdown fo their marriage. Divided loyalties, secrets kept from the other parent, one life lived in two separate houses—these may have been par for the course. With this guide, you will learn that the effects of the divorce are not permanently harmful. Find out how to forgive your parents, discover new ways to enrich your own relationships and learn that there are alternative realities available. Divorce experts and psychologists Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D., and Elizabeth S. Thayer Ph.D., show you how to recognize how your parents’ divorce influenced your life, resulting in disruptions such as relationship failures due to financial reasons, difficulties with commitment, and repeated situations that “just don’t seem to work out.” They provide techniques to help you understand and overcome these and other issues common to adult children of divorced parents. Zimmerman and Thayer focus on helping you learn how to build self-esteem, become resilient, establish healthy boundaries, communicate clearly, open up to trust, show love, believe in commitment and deal with vulnerable feelings.
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608825957
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 202
Book Description
If your parents divorced when you were young, you were probably affected by the breakdown fo their marriage. Divided loyalties, secrets kept from the other parent, one life lived in two separate houses—these may have been par for the course. With this guide, you will learn that the effects of the divorce are not permanently harmful. Find out how to forgive your parents, discover new ways to enrich your own relationships and learn that there are alternative realities available. Divorce experts and psychologists Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D., and Elizabeth S. Thayer Ph.D., show you how to recognize how your parents’ divorce influenced your life, resulting in disruptions such as relationship failures due to financial reasons, difficulties with commitment, and repeated situations that “just don’t seem to work out.” They provide techniques to help you understand and overcome these and other issues common to adult children of divorced parents. Zimmerman and Thayer focus on helping you learn how to build self-esteem, become resilient, establish healthy boundaries, communicate clearly, open up to trust, show love, believe in commitment and deal with vulnerable feelings.
The Crane Wife
Author: CJ Hauser
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 0385547102
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
A memoir in essays that expands on the viral sensation “The Crane Wife” with a frank and funny look at love, intimacy, and self in the twenty-first century. From friends and lovers to blood family and chosen family, this “elegant masterpiece” (Roxane Gay, New York Times bestselling author of Hunger) asks what more expansive definitions of love might offer us all. A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR: TIME, THE GUARDIAN, GARDEN & GUN "Hauser builds their life's inventory out of deconstructed personal narratives, resulting in a reading experience that's rich like a complicated dessert—not for wolfing down but for savoring in small bites." —The New York Times “Clever, heartfelt, and wrenching.” —Time “Brilliant.” —Oprah Daily Ten days after calling off their wedding, CJ Hauser went on an expedition to Texas to study the whooping crane. After a week wading through the gulf, they realized they'd almost signed up to live someone else's life. What if you released yourself from traditional narratives of happiness? What if you looked for ways to leave room for the unexpected? In Hauser’s case, this meant dissecting pop culture touchstone, from The Philadelphia Story to The X Files, to learn how not to lose yourself in a relationship. They attended a robot convention, contemplated grief at John Belushi’s gravesite, and officiated a wedding. Most importantly, they mapped the difference between the stories we’re asked to hold versus those we choose to carry. Told with the late-night barstool directness of your wisest, most bighearted friend, The Crane Wife is a book for everyone whose path doesn't look the way they thought it would; for everyone learning to find joy in the not-knowing and to build a new sort of life story, a new sort of family, a new sort of home to live in.
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 0385547102
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
A memoir in essays that expands on the viral sensation “The Crane Wife” with a frank and funny look at love, intimacy, and self in the twenty-first century. From friends and lovers to blood family and chosen family, this “elegant masterpiece” (Roxane Gay, New York Times bestselling author of Hunger) asks what more expansive definitions of love might offer us all. A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR: TIME, THE GUARDIAN, GARDEN & GUN "Hauser builds their life's inventory out of deconstructed personal narratives, resulting in a reading experience that's rich like a complicated dessert—not for wolfing down but for savoring in small bites." —The New York Times “Clever, heartfelt, and wrenching.” —Time “Brilliant.” —Oprah Daily Ten days after calling off their wedding, CJ Hauser went on an expedition to Texas to study the whooping crane. After a week wading through the gulf, they realized they'd almost signed up to live someone else's life. What if you released yourself from traditional narratives of happiness? What if you looked for ways to leave room for the unexpected? In Hauser’s case, this meant dissecting pop culture touchstone, from The Philadelphia Story to The X Files, to learn how not to lose yourself in a relationship. They attended a robot convention, contemplated grief at John Belushi’s gravesite, and officiated a wedding. Most importantly, they mapped the difference between the stories we’re asked to hold versus those we choose to carry. Told with the late-night barstool directness of your wisest, most bighearted friend, The Crane Wife is a book for everyone whose path doesn't look the way they thought it would; for everyone learning to find joy in the not-knowing and to build a new sort of life story, a new sort of family, a new sort of home to live in.
Calling It Quits: Late Life Divorce and Starting Over
Author: Deirdre Bair
Publisher: Argo-Navis
ISBN: 9780786754885
Category : Divorce
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Some gave the usual reasons: "He traded me in for a trophy wife younger than our daughter," or "We had nothing in common anymore," or I couldn't take his ...{fill in the blank - gambling, drinking, womanizing]." But I also heard a lot of stories from men and women who I though lived comfortable, contented lives in financially secure marriages and who said that they didn't care what the future might hold, that they divorced because they could not go on living the same old life in the same old rut with the same old boring person. I heard a lot of remarks that all came down to one word: freedom. -- From Calling it Quits This is the first book to reveal the truth about the exploding phenomenon of late-life divorce, which has resulted in a seismic shift in modern relationships. Now, in a finger-on-the-pulse examination of this growing trend, Deirdre Bair, New York Times bestselling author and winner of the National Book Award, explores the many reasons why older, long-married couples suddenly decide to break up. Having conducted nearly four hundred interviews with ex-wives, ex-husbands, and their adult children, Bair reveals some of the surprising motivations that lead to these drastic late-life splits, as well as the unexpected turns life takes for all concerned after the divorce is final.
Publisher: Argo-Navis
ISBN: 9780786754885
Category : Divorce
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Some gave the usual reasons: "He traded me in for a trophy wife younger than our daughter," or "We had nothing in common anymore," or I couldn't take his ...{fill in the blank - gambling, drinking, womanizing]." But I also heard a lot of stories from men and women who I though lived comfortable, contented lives in financially secure marriages and who said that they didn't care what the future might hold, that they divorced because they could not go on living the same old life in the same old rut with the same old boring person. I heard a lot of remarks that all came down to one word: freedom. -- From Calling it Quits This is the first book to reveal the truth about the exploding phenomenon of late-life divorce, which has resulted in a seismic shift in modern relationships. Now, in a finger-on-the-pulse examination of this growing trend, Deirdre Bair, New York Times bestselling author and winner of the National Book Award, explores the many reasons why older, long-married couples suddenly decide to break up. Having conducted nearly four hundred interviews with ex-wives, ex-husbands, and their adult children, Bair reveals some of the surprising motivations that lead to these drastic late-life splits, as well as the unexpected turns life takes for all concerned after the divorce is final.