Author: Nina W Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625205X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 226
Book Description
Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.
Children of the Aging Self-Absorbed
Author: Nina W Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625205X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 226
Book Description
Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625205X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 226
Book Description
Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.
Children of the Self-Absorbed
Author: Nina Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1572247282
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1572247282
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.
Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent
Author: Grace Lebow
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0062111965
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 297
Book Description
Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0062111965
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 297
Book Description
Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Author: Lindsay C. Gibson
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625172X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 284
Book Description
Now a New York Times bestseller! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625172X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 284
Book Description
Now a New York Times bestseller! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
Why Is It Always About You?
Author: Sandy Hotchkiss
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106533
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 216
Book Description
In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106533
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 216
Book Description
In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
Aging Thoughtfully
Author: Martha Craven Nussbaum
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0190600233
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
"Features dueling essays by leading figures in philosophy, law, and economics; each essay employs a wealth of fictional and real world examples to address the topic of aging; covers a wide range of questions that confront one facing the last third of life"--Publisher's website
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0190600233
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 265
Book Description
"Features dueling essays by leading figures in philosophy, law, and economics; each essay employs a wealth of fictional and real world examples to address the topic of aging; covers a wide range of questions that confront one facing the last third of life"--Publisher's website
Better Than a Diagnosis
Author: Antoinette Banks
Publisher: Independently Published
ISBN: 9781090543882
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 204
Book Description
Better Than A Diagnosis: A Single Parent's Guide to Autism is a never before seen autobiographical novel meets well-researched roadmap in navigating the world of autism spectrum disorder. Most parents face barriers with getting support for their children on the spectrum and Antoinette's unique perspective as a single parent pulls the reader into a cocoon of relatable inspiration.The reader will learn about biological psychology, teaching techniques, and first-hand experience behind the choices and behaviors of a person on the spectrum.Antoinette says, "I know what it feels like to be told a thousand times 'no' when it came to the care of my child. I know how it feels to be abandoned by friends and family over the choice to stay committed to the roller coaster of autism. I wrote this book for every person who ever felt alone, challenged, and frustrated in combating autism. There is hope. And hope is Better Than a Diagnosis."
Publisher: Independently Published
ISBN: 9781090543882
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 204
Book Description
Better Than A Diagnosis: A Single Parent's Guide to Autism is a never before seen autobiographical novel meets well-researched roadmap in navigating the world of autism spectrum disorder. Most parents face barriers with getting support for their children on the spectrum and Antoinette's unique perspective as a single parent pulls the reader into a cocoon of relatable inspiration.The reader will learn about biological psychology, teaching techniques, and first-hand experience behind the choices and behaviors of a person on the spectrum.Antoinette says, "I know what it feels like to be told a thousand times 'no' when it came to the care of my child. I know how it feels to be abandoned by friends and family over the choice to stay committed to the roller coaster of autism. I wrote this book for every person who ever felt alone, challenged, and frustrated in combating autism. There is hope. And hope is Better Than a Diagnosis."
Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1416551328
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1416551328
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 275
Book Description
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
Parental Guidance Recommended
Author: Louise Porter
Publisher: Small Poppies International
ISBN: 9780980469578
Category : Child development
Languages : en
Pages : 296
Book Description
This book for parents details how to guide children and adolescents. The approach is based on the belief that humans are not controlled by consequences (otherwise our prisons would be empty) but instead that we all act to meet our needs. This belief changes everything: it moves the focus from who has the power in a parenting relationship, to who has the need. And its core value is that adults and children have equal rights to get their needs met. Guidance aims to teach children to behave considerately - that is, to think about what happens to others when they act in a particular way. In contrast, rewards and punishments cause children to think about what happens to them when they perform a behaviour: will they get into trouble, get told off, be rewarded with extra computer time... and so on. Therefore, Parental Guidance Recommended teaches parents alternatives to rewards and punishments. The book also focuses on the three equally vital emotional needs of all children: how to give them a deep sense of their worth, to meet their need to belong, and to give children autonomy (or opportunities to be self-governing). When we use rewards and punishments to try to control those children who have a strong need for autonomy (whom I call 'spirited'), we get into a dance of escalating defiance and anger on the children's part and escalating coercion and anger on ours. Instead, the guidance approach involves listening to children, being assertive, solving problems collaboratively and supporting children to regain self-control when they have a meltdown. On the grounds that when a person is drowning, that is not the time to give swimming lessons, support involves saying very little but instead guiding children to soothe themselves. This book details these skills and offers suggestions for solving persistent behavioural difficulties in children and young people. It also reminds us to be compassionate towards ourselves as parents and as individuals, because we each have our own frailties and needs.
Publisher: Small Poppies International
ISBN: 9780980469578
Category : Child development
Languages : en
Pages : 296
Book Description
This book for parents details how to guide children and adolescents. The approach is based on the belief that humans are not controlled by consequences (otherwise our prisons would be empty) but instead that we all act to meet our needs. This belief changes everything: it moves the focus from who has the power in a parenting relationship, to who has the need. And its core value is that adults and children have equal rights to get their needs met. Guidance aims to teach children to behave considerately - that is, to think about what happens to others when they act in a particular way. In contrast, rewards and punishments cause children to think about what happens to them when they perform a behaviour: will they get into trouble, get told off, be rewarded with extra computer time... and so on. Therefore, Parental Guidance Recommended teaches parents alternatives to rewards and punishments. The book also focuses on the three equally vital emotional needs of all children: how to give them a deep sense of their worth, to meet their need to belong, and to give children autonomy (or opportunities to be self-governing). When we use rewards and punishments to try to control those children who have a strong need for autonomy (whom I call 'spirited'), we get into a dance of escalating defiance and anger on the children's part and escalating coercion and anger on ours. Instead, the guidance approach involves listening to children, being assertive, solving problems collaboratively and supporting children to regain self-control when they have a meltdown. On the grounds that when a person is drowning, that is not the time to give swimming lessons, support involves saying very little but instead guiding children to soothe themselves. This book details these skills and offers suggestions for solving persistent behavioural difficulties in children and young people. It also reminds us to be compassionate towards ourselves as parents and as individuals, because we each have our own frailties and needs.
Whose Life Is It Anyway?
Author: Nina W. Brown
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781572242890
Category : Control (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
InWhose Life Is It Anyway?, psychologist Nina Brown helps readers evaluate their family ties and decide if they are so caught up in others needs that they neglect their own health and happiness. She gives readers a variety of techniques for shielding themselves from the demands of their loved ones, building strong boundaries, checking their tendency toward excessive empathy, and staying free of dominating or manipulative relationships.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781572242890
Category : Control (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
InWhose Life Is It Anyway?, psychologist Nina Brown helps readers evaluate their family ties and decide if they are so caught up in others needs that they neglect their own health and happiness. She gives readers a variety of techniques for shielding themselves from the demands of their loved ones, building strong boundaries, checking their tendency toward excessive empathy, and staying free of dominating or manipulative relationships.