Author: Drew CangelosiPublisher: Xlibris Corporation
ISBN: 9780738815404
Category : Self-help techniques
Languages : en
Pages : 0
Book Description
Twenty five hundred years ago, after years of searching for wisdom, Buddha concluded that “life is suffering.” In his perennial best seller The Road Less Traveled, M. Scott Peck begins with the statement, “Life is difficult.” And when I was a young boy, my father told me, “Life ain’t easy.” This seems to be a universal truth. We all have issues to face, difficulties to surmount, questions that need answering and problems to resolve. We are all faced with the daily dilemmas of life. There are no easy answers, shortcuts or secret techniques to deal with our difficulties. One thing we do know is that you have the capacity to solve your problems and heal your wounds. Your power to do this lies within your ability to choose your reactions, alter your attitudes, control your mental perceptions and change your life. When any event or situation occurs, in that very moment, you have a choice. You can choose to make things better, or choose to make things worse. If you are basing your choice on sound reasoning, rational thinking, and self-awareness; if you are dealing with the issue in the moment; if you are looking for opportunities for learning and growth; if you are looking within for answers; and if you are taking responsibility for your experience, then you are more likely to make things better. Since we are all imperfect, fallible human beings, we all have our own ways of making things worse. This book identifies 101 ways that people typically make things worse and then offers many more strategies, techniques and possible solutions to conquer those self-defeating choices. Here is a list of those 101 ways. Use it as a checklist to identify your specific ways of making things worse. 1. Worry about it 2. Take yourself too seriously 3. Focus all your attention on it 4. Don’t be satisfied unless it’s perfect 5. Think there’s only one way to fix it 6. Stop breathing 7. Avoid it 8. Imagine the worst 9. Think of it as yet another obstacle to overcome 10. Judge yourself (or others) 11. See your problem as unique 12. Remember all the times in the past you had to deal with similar problems 13. Wait for a guaranteed solution 14. Tell yourself you’re not capable of solving it 15. Feel sorry for yourself 16. Become immobile (stay in your room) 17. Don’t eat 18. Don’t tell anyone 19. Hide your emotions 20. Isolate yourself 21. Take it out on someone else 22. Distract yourself 23. Realize you don’t deserve better 24. Stay in bed 25. Tell yourself you’ll never be happy 26. Blame your parents (or anyone else) 27. Wait for someone to fix it 28. Take it personally 29. Have a temper tantrum 30. Keeping using the same way to deal with it 31. Run away 32. Play it safe 33. Stay uninformed 34. Smoke, drink or pop a pill 35. Think about how lucky and happy other people are 36. Stuff your face 37. Tell yourself it will last forever 38. Realize that the world’s just a terrible place to live 39. Tell yourself it doesn’t exist 40. Hope it goes away 41. Deal with it tomorrow 42. Accept it as your lot in life 43. Blame God 44. Wait for Divine intervention 45. Hate yourself or the experience 46. Feel helpless and hopeless 47. Compare your life to other people 48. File it away so you don’t have to deal with it 49. Get the answers from other people 50. Play “what if” or “yes but” 51. Tell yourself it’s just not fair 52. Call the psychic hot line 53. Keep telling yourself this shouldn’t be happening 54. Resent it 55. Above all else, resist change 56. Complain about it to anyon
